tffy2004 said:
When you are married and your spouse committs adultery how can you stay in the marriage?
In my head, my way of thinking Adultery=Divorce.
Is there anyone here who has made it to the other side of a spouse committing adultery and it didn't end in divorce, HOW DID YOU DO IT?
I honestly think I would go Crazy!!!
Hi Tffy
I love you Darlin'...
Although my marriage ended in divorce I'll share my Personal Experience if it's okay with you:
First you cry; and you cry some more. Then you get angry...at him, at 'her' and him again. You hold out from sex, because all you can think of is that he was with someone else and it causes a wall to come up.
Then you block it out because you want things to be as if it had never happened. Then you actually do forget, until it happens again.
For me, I couldn't live with it. I was just to tired of worrying about where he was and who he was with 'this time.' I'd had enough. There were other issues, as he was also on drugs, then he became 'crazy' and abusive. Ummm, that' was it...enough! He needed to be elsewhere, anywhere than with me and our babies.
There are marriages that do survive. Had my ex stopped after the first encounter and had he not gotten into drugs and had he not become abusive...I would have still left him. That first incident left a wall that I could not tear down... He compromised my 'Trust'.
I don't advise other wives to leave. We have the power of prayer to 'fix' things...I'd rather see a marriage work, then to fail anyday.
Hence, Tffy, this is not your 'lot' in life. Your marriage is under the Blood of Jesus....
Hugs angel...