larry3344
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I've already had a thread about my hair issues with my mom although it is not as serious as last time I still need your input. For those that do not know what I am talking about here's a little recap: My Mom is very sensitive to smell something I have always known but now this is affecting my natural hair journey because she hates the smell of all my hair products. She says they stink, let me list some of them; Body Shop Honey Moisturizing conditioner, Curls line, Aussie Moist, Giovanni, etc and many others. According to her All of the lovely diverse ladies here are all mixed or have extensions and are lying about their hair care journeys. She believes that all I need is Shampoo (Pantene or Tresseme), Conditioner (Pantene or Tresseme) and Dax pomade because only pomade can moisturize our type of hair. She says that she has taken care of my hair and she is the reason that it has grown and that was all she used. Of course as a young girl my hair was long and thick. But after my mom used just for me texturizer my hair never became the same it was breaking constantly my roots started to grow out and I had two textures thick new growth and straight ends. My mom did not keep up with the texturizer and refused to cut my hair even though it was clearly unhealthy. At the end of grade 12 I had enough (discovered LHCF) and asked to shave it so I can start over she refused. So I one day when I was supposed to get my hair braided I went upstairs and used scissors and cut pieces of hair. Then she had no choice but to shave it off. After a year even she realized that my hair was healthier when I cut it after my first year she was upset and told me that now my hair is not going to grow long :/ anyway so I was right after all although she still does not want to admit it.
Ladies my hair was horrible it was so unhealthy, not only did I have chemicals in it but I was constantly getting it braided. Now my mom is African and she thinks that the only way my hair can be presentable is by getting it braided/texturized/cornrowed. I can never wear my hair out because according her I’d look a mess. She thinks if black people could grow their hair long then many women would do it. I keep telling that growing is about health and how well hair is maintained and that many black women are ignorant (like you know who) and are not receptive to changing their bad habits. But she does not listen to me!
My mom is a Capricorn she is very set in her ways and very logical about most things. If she’s done it a certain way for years she does not plan to change it. I am an Aries and although we are different we do share many personality traits and one of them is stubbornness. I don’t mind change and gaining knowledge and experimenting but my mom is not that way at all. Now what I ask of you ladies to help me prove my mom wrong about her hangups on hair care. I’d like to have detailed experiences of women with similar situations with your regimens also and before /after pics if possible due to LHCF. Also I’d like inputs from African women on this forum who have gone the same thing or going through the same thing and understand the warped mentality. Finally anyone can contribute but I especially need the participation of my Type 4 ladies also since any higher than type 4 hair my mom considers mixed hair. She even says that Ayurvedic hair products can only be used by indian women but it will break our hair. Trust me ladies I’ve tried and tried to make my mom undertsand how untrue that is. But at this point I want your experiences and pictures to speak for themselves.
P.S: Whenever my mom does my hair she uses 3 medium-toothed to fine toothed comb to go through one section before braiding it. She says the broken hair were supposed to fall anyway and our dead. Due to this technique I have a lot of short strands all over my hair and some parts have not caught up to others. She does on naked hair and thinks I don’t need a cream based moisturizer but can use a pomade. Please I NEED help with this because I plan on making my mom read this thread!!!!
I am really frustrated and a bit depressed because I have learn so much and my hair has improved because and I feel like she is setting me back.
Also can you recommend hair products that are light or unscented, those ladies that are sensitive to smell can you help me out!
Ladies my hair was horrible it was so unhealthy, not only did I have chemicals in it but I was constantly getting it braided. Now my mom is African and she thinks that the only way my hair can be presentable is by getting it braided/texturized/cornrowed. I can never wear my hair out because according her I’d look a mess. She thinks if black people could grow their hair long then many women would do it. I keep telling that growing is about health and how well hair is maintained and that many black women are ignorant (like you know who) and are not receptive to changing their bad habits. But she does not listen to me!
My mom is a Capricorn she is very set in her ways and very logical about most things. If she’s done it a certain way for years she does not plan to change it. I am an Aries and although we are different we do share many personality traits and one of them is stubbornness. I don’t mind change and gaining knowledge and experimenting but my mom is not that way at all. Now what I ask of you ladies to help me prove my mom wrong about her hangups on hair care. I’d like to have detailed experiences of women with similar situations with your regimens also and before /after pics if possible due to LHCF. Also I’d like inputs from African women on this forum who have gone the same thing or going through the same thing and understand the warped mentality. Finally anyone can contribute but I especially need the participation of my Type 4 ladies also since any higher than type 4 hair my mom considers mixed hair. She even says that Ayurvedic hair products can only be used by indian women but it will break our hair. Trust me ladies I’ve tried and tried to make my mom undertsand how untrue that is. But at this point I want your experiences and pictures to speak for themselves.
P.S: Whenever my mom does my hair she uses 3 medium-toothed to fine toothed comb to go through one section before braiding it. She says the broken hair were supposed to fall anyway and our dead. Due to this technique I have a lot of short strands all over my hair and some parts have not caught up to others. She does on naked hair and thinks I don’t need a cream based moisturizer but can use a pomade. Please I NEED help with this because I plan on making my mom read this thread!!!!
I am really frustrated and a bit depressed because I have learn so much and my hair has improved because and I feel like she is setting me back.
Also can you recommend hair products that are light or unscented, those ladies that are sensitive to smell can you help me out!
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I think mom's just having trouble letting go of her baby. 
