SEMO
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I couldn't decide whether to post this here or in off topic. But I decided to put it here, since it's mostly related to hair stuff.
I just wanted to say that for the most part, I don't like houseguests (I don't like being one either). I'm very particular/OCD about a lot of stuff when it comes to my living space and people coming to stay overnight feels like it just disrupts everything.
I want to be cool, laidback and accommodating when people stay over. But if it's more than one night, the irritation quickly builds up. I just had a good friend stay two nights and leave not too long ago. Everything was cool until this morning. She's a morning person and got up first to shower. When I woke up I had to pee, but was waiting for her to be done (I stay in an apartment with one bathroom). So when she cracked the bathroom door after awhile, I went to ask if she was done. I get to the door and I see her using my favorite hairbrush.
I didn't even think to tell her in advance not to use any of my combs or brushes. I just assumed that was something a person would not use if it wasn't theirs (or use without checking). I'm usually tactful and think before speaking, but I could feel the horrified look on my face before the words "oh my God, please don't use my brushes, I hate that" just popped out of my mouth. She immediately stopped using the brush and apologized a number of times (while trying to clean her hair out of my brush).
She has curly hair too and had just washed her hair (and was using the brush I use for detangling). Speaking of which, on the first day she came, I had a bag of 30 or so hair products I was planning to give away (I've been trying to downsize my stash). She was interested in them and ended up deciding to take most of them off my hands (and I also later gave her some samples of stuff - I have too much hair to get much use out of most samples). In fact, she washed her hair that first day (she'd been wearing it straight) just so she could use the products.
So I was caught off guard when I realized she shampooed her hair again today. I asked her (out of curiosity) if she washes her hair everyday. She said "no, I just washed it again b/c I wanted to try out your products." Meaning the selection of products in my bathroom that I wasn't giving away. And it's not like the stuff I gave away was worse than the stuff I kept (I just felt like I had too much and wanted to downsize - I had been planning to give them to my sister-in-law who loves getting products from me).
But I really had to hold it in (and not freak out on her, again) when I found out she used my favorite shampoo. B/c I had already told her the day before, when we were discussing hair products, that that was my favorite shampoo and I had been using that brand for over a decade (since high school). I also explained how I'm afraid that it's being discontinued (and had had to order what I could find online), and how I had even contacted the company to ask them about it. So why would she specifically decide to use my precious, holy grail shampoo (that I have in limited supply - when I had gifted her a shampoo in the products I gave away and had other shampoo available)?
And later found out that she didn't even like it.
Maybe only another product junkie would understand how I feel (she's not that into what she puts on her hair and probably doesn't grasp how panicked I am about possibly not having any more of that shampoo in the future). I'm a pj (in recovery) about a lot of things, but not shampoo. 90% of the times that I've washed my hair in the past 10 years has probably been with this particular shampoo. But, she probably just was thinking how much she likes my hair and was curious to try a product I said I love.
Btw, I also found out that she used my favorite cleansing conditioner as a regular conditioner, b/c she didn't know a cleansing conditioner was any different than a regular rinse out conditioner (I actually found that kinda funny).
Ok, I'm done. Thanks everyone for reading this, I just needed to get this vent out to other PJs and hair lovers who would maybe understand the horror I felt when I saw her using my detangling brush and found out she used my holy grail shampoo.
I just wanted to say that for the most part, I don't like houseguests (I don't like being one either). I'm very particular/OCD about a lot of stuff when it comes to my living space and people coming to stay overnight feels like it just disrupts everything.
I want to be cool, laidback and accommodating when people stay over. But if it's more than one night, the irritation quickly builds up. I just had a good friend stay two nights and leave not too long ago. Everything was cool until this morning. She's a morning person and got up first to shower. When I woke up I had to pee, but was waiting for her to be done (I stay in an apartment with one bathroom). So when she cracked the bathroom door after awhile, I went to ask if she was done. I get to the door and I see her using my favorite hairbrush.
I didn't even think to tell her in advance not to use any of my combs or brushes. I just assumed that was something a person would not use if it wasn't theirs (or use without checking). I'm usually tactful and think before speaking, but I could feel the horrified look on my face before the words "oh my God, please don't use my brushes, I hate that" just popped out of my mouth. She immediately stopped using the brush and apologized a number of times (while trying to clean her hair out of my brush).
She has curly hair too and had just washed her hair (and was using the brush I use for detangling). Speaking of which, on the first day she came, I had a bag of 30 or so hair products I was planning to give away (I've been trying to downsize my stash). She was interested in them and ended up deciding to take most of them off my hands (and I also later gave her some samples of stuff - I have too much hair to get much use out of most samples). In fact, she washed her hair that first day (she'd been wearing it straight) just so she could use the products.
So I was caught off guard when I realized she shampooed her hair again today. I asked her (out of curiosity) if she washes her hair everyday. She said "no, I just washed it again b/c I wanted to try out your products." Meaning the selection of products in my bathroom that I wasn't giving away. And it's not like the stuff I gave away was worse than the stuff I kept (I just felt like I had too much and wanted to downsize - I had been planning to give them to my sister-in-law who loves getting products from me).
But I really had to hold it in (and not freak out on her, again) when I found out she used my favorite shampoo. B/c I had already told her the day before, when we were discussing hair products, that that was my favorite shampoo and I had been using that brand for over a decade (since high school). I also explained how I'm afraid that it's being discontinued (and had had to order what I could find online), and how I had even contacted the company to ask them about it. So why would she specifically decide to use my precious, holy grail shampoo (that I have in limited supply - when I had gifted her a shampoo in the products I gave away and had other shampoo available)?
And later found out that she didn't even like it. Maybe only another product junkie would understand how I feel (she's not that into what she puts on her hair and probably doesn't grasp how panicked I am about possibly not having any more of that shampoo in the future). I'm a pj (in recovery) about a lot of things, but not shampoo. 90% of the times that I've washed my hair in the past 10 years has probably been with this particular shampoo. But, she probably just was thinking how much she likes my hair and was curious to try a product I said I love.
Btw, I also found out that she used my favorite cleansing conditioner as a regular conditioner, b/c she didn't know a cleansing conditioner was any different than a regular rinse out conditioner (I actually found that kinda funny).
Ok, I'm done. Thanks everyone for reading this, I just needed to get this vent out to other PJs and hair lovers who would maybe understand the horror I felt when I saw her using my detangling brush and found out she used my holy grail shampoo.
But she grew up with two sisters (one older, one younger). So I'm sure sharing a brush, of all things, was a non-issue. 
I'm going to go have a seat and contemplate the gravity of my addiction before offering my support. OP, I definitely feel you tho.
