I hate the stereotype, but do you agree?

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  1. mermaid

    mermaid New Member

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    Sascha girl. Tell me who that adoralble lil babe is in your avatar!!!?? Too CUTE!!
     
  2. ms_kenesha

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    Tracy said:
    what message does someone choosing to wear their hair a certain color send??? What message could haircolor send? And to whom?

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    No one answered this so I will [​IMG]

    what message does someone choosing to wear their hair a certain color send???

    It could send a message that a certain color is more desirable and that desirability could be linked to the belief that whiteness or the closest approximation of it, is what is desirable in society. i.e. "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes", "Blondes have more fun", etc.

    What message could haircolor send?
    The message that your natural haircolor is inferior because blonde is the "standard" that everyone should aspire to.

    And to whom?
    Everyone...it's not just a black thing, but I see all races of people clamoring to dye their hair blonde even when it doesn't flatter them and/or it severely damages their hair. [​IMG]


    P.S. Here is the link to the article The Blonding of Black America
     
  3. MsNastassja

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    Well how come nobody says anything when someone white with blonde hair dyes their hair dark? Are they trying to be black? Of course no one says that, they just say they are trying to "find themselves" or get a style or w/e. When my hair was relaxed people thought I dyed it. I got a lot of comments on it (is that your natural haircolor? are you mixed? yes, and no, in that order). Light hair just runs in my dad's side of the family. His sister has light reddish hair, and she got the "what color is your hair?" comments a lot, too. Now that my hair is natural the color doesn't show up as well, but its still there. Except you have to look at it very close. My friends joke because we have a group that sings (8 of us) and I'm the only black one, so I have the darkest skin and the lightest hair. By the way, as far as the "gentlemen prefer blondes" thing that ms kenesha pointed out, I read somewhere that *IN GENERAL* guys look at blondes as, I guess you could say, Ms. Right Now, but they look at girls with darker hair as Ms. Right. But hey if anyone tries to judge you on your haircolor alone they are definitely not worth any of your time.
     
  4. Tracy

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    ms_kenesha said:
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    Tracy said:
    what message does someone choosing to wear their hair a certain color send??? What message could haircolor send? And to whom?

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    No one answered this so I will [​IMG]

    what message does someone choosing to wear their hair a certain color send???

    It could send a message that a certain color is more desirable and that desirability could be linked to the belief that whiteness or the closest approximation of it, is what is desirable in society. i.e. "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes", "Blondes have more fun", etc.

    What message could haircolor send?
    The message that your natural haircolor is inferior because blonde is the "standard" that everyone should aspire to.

    And to whom?
    Everyone...it's not just a black thing, but I see all races of people clamoring to dye their hair blonde even when it doesn't flatter them and/or it severely damages their hair. [​IMG]


    P.S. Here is the link to the article The Blonding of Black America

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    Thanks Kenesha. Sounds to me like you'd have to draw a lot of self deprecating conclusions to make those inferences work. I guess I'm just not willing. Not when it comes to HAIRCOLOR anyway.... I'm too busy trying to be smart enough, and well read enough, and articulate enough to dispel the myths than to worry about what color some celebrity's hair is.

    I think all of these inferiority complexes are driven by the individual, from the inside --> out.

    I see your points tho...and I see how someone might be affected by them, even if not me. [​IMG]
     
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    those braids are CUTE!!!
     
  6. Sascha

    Sascha Stay at home Mommy

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    Thank you Mermaid! It is my son =) He is 20 months. That pic is from his gymnastics class.
     
  7. ms_kenesha

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    [ QUOTE ]
    Tracy said:
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    ms_kenesha said:
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    Tracy said:
    what message does someone choosing to wear their hair a certain color send??? What message could haircolor send? And to whom?

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    No one answered this so I will [​IMG]

    what message does someone choosing to wear their hair a certain color send???

    It could send a message that a certain color is more desirable and that desirability could be linked to the belief that whiteness or the closest approximation of it, is what is desirable in society. i.e. "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes", "Blondes have more fun", etc.

    What message could haircolor send?
    The message that your natural haircolor is inferior because blonde is the "standard" that everyone should aspire to.

    And to whom?
    Everyone...it's not just a black thing, but I see all races of people clamoring to dye their hair blonde even when it doesn't flatter them and/or it severely damages their hair. [​IMG]


    P.S. Here is the link to the article The Blonding of Black America

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    Thanks Kenesha. Sounds to me like you'd have to draw a lot of self deprecating conclusions to make those inferences work. I guess I'm just not willing. Not when it comes to HAIRCOLOR anyway.... I'm too busy trying to be smart enough, and well read enough, and articulate enough to dispel the myths than to worry about what color some celebrity's hair is.

    I think all of these inferiority complexes are driven by the individual, from the inside --> out.

    I see your points tho...and I see how someone might be affected by them, even if not me. [​IMG]

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    I definitely agree, but I believe self-esteem is in low supply in America and unfortunately not enough people are trying to be smart, well read, articulate, or just plain good people. Yet, they are chasing after the things they believe beauty/desirability will afford them. Unfortunately in the American mindset blondeness and beauty are seen as interchangable. I repeat I am not speaking of just black Americans but all Americans. I think the obsession with blondeness is ridiculous, but have no problem with people dyeing their hair any color they wish. I know that for some it's just about a "look" [​IMG]
     
  8. Tracy

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    Mine is in low supply too [​IMG] ...just not about this. I guess everyone has a vice.
     
  9. ms_kenesha

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    Mine is in low supply too [​IMG] ...just not about this. I guess everyone has a vice.

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    Awww sweetie [​IMG] Mine too in some areas, but I'm working on it. [​IMG]
     
  10. LaVinya

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    TBird said:
    I believe that some women may just like lighter hair, it may flatter them. Mary J. looks great with all colors of hair to me, but we don't consider her any less 'black' because this week she may be blonde. Some like lil Kim and Jennifer Lopez who may have some image issues lighten in efforts to in some ways deny their ethnicity and who they are. But no hair color can do that. I'm a fan of dark hair. But that's me. I don't go around saying 'ooohh she trying to be white with that blonde weave, who she think she is'. To each his own. There is only one JUDGE and ain't none of us Him. DWSPlaymate, your blonde hair is who you are, never deny that and never ever let other people make you feel you have to. I know your beautiful. People are always going to have something to say and the ones that do are simply this--HATERS!!! And that means they aren't worth your time or thoughts anyway.

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    DITTO [​IMG]
     
  11. Karonica

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    iCandey said:
    i think that lighter hair on people can bring out their face more but too light like Serena and MJB at times is tacky...

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    I agree. I love lighter colors...I've only had blonde highlights (not intentional, but they were cute mixed with my auburn colors) and blonde braids and it's amazing how hair color can enhance your face overall.
     
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    It's weird that people always find something about someone to judge. Haircolor is just another thing. I say to each his/her own. I personally like the way my stark black hair looks with my brown skin [​IMG]pretty i think
     
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    Damn its just hair, geesh... I dye my hair blonde, so I am trying to be white, huh, come again [​IMG]
    I dye my hair blonde/brown because it fits me, I honestly can't see myself with black hair [​IMG] NOT CUTE
    Frightening [​IMG]
     
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    To be honest when I was blonde most black people were very complimentary. Women would stop me in the street and ask what colour it is.
    As far as blondes having more fun? I think they do [​IMG]

    I dyed it after working with a black woman who dyed hers -it looked great on her. I've known a couple of black girls with natural blonde hair and it always looked so nice.
    Most of my black friends dye theirs jet black but I cant pull that off.
     
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    Thank you Mermaid! It is my son =) He is 20 months. That pic is from his gymnastics class.

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    Awww, he's just a lovey!! Makes me have the baby wants again!!
     

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