are u relaxed?? dark & lovely has this purple bottle, some kind of moisture seal thats AMAZING. i have the THIRSTIEST hair ever. but what i do (im relaxed) is add evoo, tea tree oil, && castor oil && a good leave in, add that to mane & tail conditioner. condition hair, towel dry, put in olive oil replenishing pack, add heat for 25 min or go dry for 60 min. then rinse that out with cold, cold water && lemon juice. towel dry then add the dark && lovely. that has quenched my hairs thirst.... which is the first time. i also put the stuff in the purple dark & lovely bottle on dry hair everynight before i wrap my hair. i heanna'd my hair yesterday && put that stuff in it && its more moisturized than when i air dry my hair . lastly, u should invest in a charcoal filter for ur shower head. its in the plumbing aisle of home depot, i dont know about other stores tho....