Married "Videos" ... HELP!

[Mrs.TheBronx]

This maybe a silly question for you all but here goes.....

My hubby and I are Christians and happily married for over 2 years. We play a very active role in the church but yet I did not know how to answer this question that he asked... My hubby asked me yesterday if making our own "videos" would be the same as watching X rated films (He knows thats a NO-NO, but he figures making our own is okay)? I really didn't know what to say.. so I decided I'd come on here and ask you ladies.. Please help a sista AND brotha out..

 

[Laela]

Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

This is something you and your husband need to pray to God about.

This maybe a silly question for you all but here goes.....

My hubby and I are Christians and happily married for over 2 years. We play a very active role in the church but yet I did not know how to answer this question that he asked... My hubby asked me yesterday if making our own "videos" would be the same as watching X rated films (He knows thats a NO-NO, but he figures making our own is okay)? I really didn't know what to say.. so I decided I'd come on here and ask you ladies.. Please help a sista AND brotha out..

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Thanks Laela, I am familiar with that scripture... what part of it makes it impure? Is it the video part, or watchin ourselve after? I am just askin for clarification. I see alot of people viewed this post, but have not replied, so I guess either alot of people don't know or i just asked a really bad question.. I was told ignorance is not bliss and no questions is a silly one.. I hope you all know that this is simply a question looking for it to be answered.. Thanks all.. Thanks ladies..

 

[Mai Tai]

Mrs. TheBronx,

I think your question is an EXCELLENT one. Sorry I cannot offer a valid answer. I just wanted to let you know that i'm sure someone will be able to help you with a real-time answer. I want to know the answer to this too...

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Mrs. TheBronx,

I think your question is an EXCELLENT one. Sorry I cannot offer a valid answer. I just wanted to let you know that i'm sure someone will be able to help you with a real-time answer. I want to know the answer to this too...

Thanks so much honee! I'm so glad that someone else interested in the answer too.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

One of my favorite ministers said whatever promotes oneness in the bedroom he believes is good and godly within a marriege. Oneness meaning a closeness between the two of you and no others. If this idea makes you uncomfortable and like a sex object, this doesnt promote oneness. If you feel this idea will bring another level of intimacy in your marriage then....

But that a decision you have to come to through prayer and being honest with yourself.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

One of my favorite ministers said whatever promotes oneness in the bedroom he believes is good and godly within a marriege. Oneness meaning a closeness between the two of you and no others. If this idea makes you uncomfortable and like a sex object, this doesnt promote oneness. If you feel this idea will bring another level of intimacy in your marriage then....

But that a decision you have to come to through prayer and being honest with yourself.

Thank you for this comment Prettyface

 

[Laela]

I don't think that's a bad question, just a very personal one... it's like me asking folks if I should put a tattoo on my labia. Anyone who would do it, would tell me yes and anyone who wouldn't would tell me no.

But I will say if you two are worried that it's something bad to do, it likely is. I truly think you should pray..Look to man, not God for anything concerning your marriage.

The Bible talks about sexual impropriety and I believe that can occur EVEN in a marriage....If you feel you really need answer from someone, maybe talking to a marriage counselor would be helpful.

Thanks Laela, I am familiar with that scripture... what part of it makes it impure? Is it the video part, or watchin ourselve after? I am just askin for clarification. I see alot of people viewed this post, but have not replied, so I guess either alot of people don't know or i just asked a really bad question.. I was told ignorance is not bliss and no questions is a silly one.. I hope you all know that this is simply a question looking for it to be answered.. Thanks all.. Thanks ladies..

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

I don't think that's a bad question, just a very personal one... it's like me asking folks if I should put a tattoo on my labia. Anyone who would do it, would tell me yes and anyone who wouldn't would tell me no.

I really wasn't looking for people who agree or disagree, just looking for opinions, because I know for a fact that others have the same questions.. We are to ask away... especially to our Christian sistas and brothas. If I was going to ask, (personal or non personal questions) I felt the most comfortable coming here asking my sistas.

But I will say if you two are worried that it's something bad to do, it likely is. I truly think you should pray..Look to man, not God for anything concerning your marriage.

Nah, we aren't worried about it at all. It was just a question he asked me and I wanted to know what you all thought.

The Bible talks about sexual impropriety and I believe that can occur EVEN in a marriage....If you feel you really need answer from someone, maybe talking to a marriage counselor would be helpful.

So I am assuming in your marriage (If you are married) that this question is what you call sexually immoral? Correct me if I'm wrong.. Thank you so much for giving me your opinions! I appreciate it. This last post is for my sista Laela..

 

[Laela]

I'm married and we've discussed something like that before and it's a "heck no" for us. IMHO, if a Christian married couple were to record themselves, that recording actually becomes "porn" -- from the Greek word porneia. And worse, if it gets in the wrong hands or seen by anyone other than them. That's a risk I'm not taking. The Bible says if a man is to lust, let him take a wife. My very presence is visual aid enough..

HTH!

So I am assuming in your marriage (If you are married) that this question is what you call sexually immoral? Correct me if I'm wrong..

 

[Netta1]

I don't think that's a bad question, just a very personal one... it's like me asking folks if I should put a tattoo on my labia. Anyone who would do it, would tell me yes and anyone who wouldn't would tell me no.

But I will say if you two are worried that it's something bad to do, it likely is. I truly think you should pray Look to man, not God for anything concerning your marriage.

The Bible talks about sexual impropriety and I believe that can occur EVEN in a marriage....If you feel you really need answer from someone, maybe talking to a marriage counselor would be helpful.

I have to agree with Laela here @ bolded. I do not have one answer for ya, LOL. What goes on in your bed is between you, God, and your husband. If I were you I would just seek God (both you and your husband) and ask him. I hope you find your answer and some really good lighting LOL ...j/k

 

[Shimmie]

This maybe a silly question for you all but here goes.....

My hubby and I are Christians and happily married for over 2 years. We play a very active role in the church but yet I did not know how to answer this question that he asked... My hubby asked me yesterday if making our own "videos" would be the same as watching X rated films (He knows thats a NO-NO, but he figures making our own is okay)? I really didn't know what to say.. so I decided I'd come on here and ask you ladies.. Please help a sista AND brotha out..

I wouldn't worry so much about making the tape as I would about where it might end up. Making the tape is your 'married business' and it is the two of you and no one else. All I can offer is to say, PLEASE watch where you leave it.

DVD's and tapes have a way of ending up 'somewhere' else. :blush3: We 'forget' it's in the DVD player; go to sleep, wake up and leave for work. Someone comes in and has a show. It could end up in a Tyler Perry movie's DVD case or worse, Our Visit to Disney and ends up in the DVD player during Movie Night with friends or family....

I'm not saying that's is okay or not okay. However, it's your 'Married Business'. Just put a code on it or something that keeps no one else from having accidental access to it.

And please don't have your hair wrapped. Put on a show. Make it memorable. When you're both 99 you'll have something to remember that you almost forgot that you could do.

 

[BrooklynSouth]

No way should you leave a video trail!!!!!!!!!

 

[MrsHdrLe]

This is a personal one, but I guess I would ask your husband why a video when he can have the "real deal"? I guess the pupose of it makes me wonder. If you do, I suggest you get rid of it asap afterward.

 

[Shimmie]

No way should you leave a video trail!!!!!!!!!

This is a personal one, but I guess I would ask your husband why a video when he can have the "real deal"? I guess the pupose of it makes me wonder. If you do, I suggest you get rid of it asap afterward.

I agree; I'd be terrified and quite resistant.

But if they do, I can't condemn them. They're married and entitled. God bless their marriage with purity and eternal love. :Rose:

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

I wouldn't worry so much about making the tape as I would about where it might end up. Making the tape is your 'married business' and it is the two of you and no one else. All I can offer is to say, PLEASE watch where you leave it.

DVD's and tapes have a way of ending up 'somewhere' else. :blush3: We 'forget' it's in the DVD player; go to sleep, wake up and leave for work. Someone comes in and has a show. It could end up in a Tyler Perry movie's DVD case or worse, Our Visit to Disney and ends up in the DVD player during Movie Night with friends or family....

I'm not saying that's is okay or not okay. However, it's your 'Married Business'. Just put a code on it or something that keeps no one else from having accidental access to it.

And please don't have your hair wrapped. Put on a show. Make it memorable. When you're both 99 you'll have something to remember that you almost forgot that you could do.

Im sorry Shimmie! U had me crackin up!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is sooo funny especially the last sentence.. hehehe!

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

This is a personal one, but I guess I would ask your husband why a video when he can have the "real deal"? I guess the pupose of it makes me wonder. If you do, I suggest you get rid of it asap afterward.

Girl i can't tell u what goes on these men's heads! They are all loco sometimes! LOL but thanks honee!

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

No way should you leave a video trail!!!!!!!!!

LMBO!! I know right

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Thank you all for your replies and opinions!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Shimmie]

Im sorry Shimmie! U had me crackin up!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is sooo funny especially the last sentence.. hehehe!

Well IF you have to have a 'scarf', you may as well make it worth it. You could always do a 'Dance of the Seven Veils". :reddancer:

It's really a beautiful classic and your husband would love this.

I guess my question is, "Is the Marriage 'Boudoir' pornographic? Only if others are there. What happens between you and your husband is between you and your husband and God the Father, and nobody else.

This means no "updates" to this thread.... We don't want a mini-series up here.

Blessings on your marriage is all I really have to offer. Keep it alive and happy. :Rose:

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Well IF you have to have a 'scarf', you may as well make it worth it. You could always do a 'Dance of the Seven Veils". :reddancer:

It's really a beautiful classic and your husband would lovethis.

I guess my question is, "Is the Marriage 'Boudoir' pornographic? Only if others are there. What happens between you and your husband is between you and your husband and God the Father, and nobody else.

This means no "updates" to this thread.... We don't want a mini-series up here.

Blessings on your marriage is all I really have to offer. Keep it alive and happy. :Rose:

LOL @ the no updates!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBO!!

 

[Shimmie]

LOL @ the no updates!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBO!!

What happens in de' Bronx, stays in Vegas!

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[Mrs.TheBronx]

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LMBO!!! yes i totally AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHHH HAHAHAHAHAHA!

 

[mrselle]

Well IF you have to have a 'scarf', you may as well make it worth it. You could always do a 'Dance of the Seven Veils". :reddancer:

It's really a beautiful classic and your husband would love this.

I guess my question is, "Is the Marriage 'Boudoir' pornographic? Only if others are there. What happens between you and your husband is between you and your husband and God the Father, and nobody else.

This means no "updates" to this thread.... We don't want a mini-series up here.

Blessings on your marriage is all I really have to offer. Keep it alive and happy. :Rose:

You are hilarious. I know my coworkers are trying to figure out why I'm laughing all by myself.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Shimmie, you are the best!

Mrs.TheBronx,

You and your husband are blessed.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

You are hilarious. I know my coworkers are trying to figure out why I'm laughing all by myself.

Me too, girl...me too

 

[blazingthru]

I am really not trying to offend anyone but we know that God will judge the marriage bed and lovemaking between husband and wife is a gift from God. God gives and God takes away. God has blessed you with a great partner, Porn is part of satan's world we have nothing to do with anything that is part of satan's word. He loves to glorify himself. Making a porn movie ( even if you are gentle and loving one another) is glorifying self. Thats Part of Satan and sin which God has no part of and will destroy. Even if there is nothing in either of your minds about porn it is still that. we always have to be careful about what we do. Satan has a way to make sure what we really want hidden to show up for everyone to see anyway. May God's truths bless you in your decisions. We are called to live our lives in such a way to be a blessing to others who see us.

 

[Shimmie]

You are hilarious. I know my coworkers are trying to figure out why I'm laughing all by myself.

Shimmie, you are the best!

Mrs.TheBronx,

You and your husband are blessed.

Me too, girl...me too

:blush3: What? What? What I do? What I say?

I just hope the camera doesn't fall off the Tripod....

Leave out the faces.... You'll have no traces. No public Fotki's; it may get hacked.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

I am really not trying to offend anyone but we know that God will judge the marriage bed and lovemaking between husband and wife is a gift from God. God gives and God takes away. God has blessed you with a great partner, Porn is part of satan's world we have nothing to do with anything that is part of satan's word. He loves to glorify himself. Making a porn movie ( even if you are gentle and loving one another) is glorifying self. Thats Part of Satan and sin which God has no part of and will destroy. Even if there is nothing in either of your minds about porn it is still that. we always have to be careful about what we do. Satan has a way to make sure what we really want hidden to show up for everyone to see anyway. May God's truths bless you in your decisions. We are called to live our lives in such a way to be a blessing to others who see us.

Thank so much for your opinion Blazin.. A co-worker and I wanted to know which part of it makes it un Godly? Is it the taping part or the watching part? I know its not the act itself between a husband and a wife. (i do know that much) lol but seriously, im asking because I'd like to know what you all think.

Thanks so much for all of yout time and explainations! This is what its about, learning from one another and getting other view points on subjects.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

:blush3: What? What? What I do? What I say?

I just hope the camera doean't fall of the Tripod....

Leave out the faces.... You'll have no traces. No public Fotki's; it may get hacked.

LMBO!!! Shimmie u are tooooooooo FUNNY!!