Married "Videos" ... HELP!

[Mrs.TheBronx]

i agree Shimmer with your post. this is a good break down of the definition of porn and according to the definition of porn or pornography, what OP and her husband want to do doesn't fit the bill, meaning it wouldn't be technically classified as such.

pornography: creative activity (writing or pictures or films etc.) of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire

As for the word "porn", it is a diminuitive of pornography, which is derived from the Greek pornografias ("place for writing about prostitutes".)

because there is no prostitution taking place in the marriage bed, i don't see what the problem is. now you may want to look at some underlining issues of why your spouse wants to create a video and watch it. does he have a past of watching/engaging in pornographic material? this could be a urge to satisfy something that is being suppressed.
and if it is, then you don't want to open Pandora's box. people(especially men) have a way of manipulating a situation to there advantage, gaining your trusting and misguiding you to allow your guard down. pray and be on your guard my sister in Christ.

Thanks Short, that is something to lookin to.. could be an innocent fantasty tho too, but we shall c!

 

[blazingthru]

Hehehe, i feel u nice and wavy, but at the same time being respectful of blazins views and how she see it. My opinion is that your hubby should be able to stare, touch, feel his wifes entire body. but thats me.. hehe

My apologies if I was not clear that is not what I meant. I agree to this as well. I think you should be free with one another I don't think married couples should be shy with one another. I dont think we should take pictures of each other nude though. I don't think God will bless that.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

My apologies if I was not clear that is not what I meant. I agree to this as well. I think you should be free with one another I don't think married couples should be shy with one another. I dont think we should take pictures of each other nude though. I don't think God will bless that.

Thanks Blazin, I appreciate your opinion, not that i totally agree, but i do hear ya!

 

[Shimmie]

:rofl3:

You know you're gonna have to 'pray' for me.

I had absolutely NO Idea that this was in me. I can't believe what I wrote in this thread. :blush3:

And I'm not done....
This is what happens when I get bored at my desk at work.

I'm going to address the more serious questions, seriously. There some things on my heart. Praise God.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

You know you're gonna have to 'pray' for me.

I had absolutely NO Idea that this was in me. I can't believe what I wrote in this thread. :blush3:

And I'm not done....
This is what happens when I get bored at my desk at work.

I'm going to address the more serious questions, seriously. There some things on my heart. Praise God.

Yes please!!! Address away!!!!!!!

 

[Nice & Wavy]

You know you're gonna have to 'pray' for me.

I had absolutely NO Idea that this was in me. I can't believe what I wrote in this thread. :blush3:

And I'm not done....
This is what happens when I get bored at my desk at work.

I'm going to address the more serious questions, seriously. There some things on my heart. Praise God.

...sorry, sis...I'm laughing alot already this morning

 

[Laela]

Riiiight... I mean, how else.. ?



How did this turn into into a man and his wife shouldn't have sex nekkid?

Sorry, Blazin' ...this is funny stuff...

If that is sinful, then I'm have/going to be sinning alot thenerplexed

Proverbs 5: 19 KJV says this: Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

Now, if I had my clothes on, how would my breasts satisfy him and how will he be 'ravished' with my love?

 

[Laela]

I bought my Goobers.

Yes please!!! Address away!!!!!!!

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

I bought my Goobers.

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! I got my bag of twizzlers and my take the cake ice cream! Im good to go!

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Where's Shimmie? I'm about to eat all my food waiting.....

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Where's Shimmie? I'm about to eat all my food waiting.....

Oh my!!! is that waht u really eating?!?!?! LOL thats looks yummy

 

[Laela]

Naaaachoooooos!!!! ***may I have some?


Where IS Shimmie...? She's getting a hungry crowd. I can't eat my Goobers until I get the good word. LOL

 

[Shimmie]

My apologies if I was not clear that is not what I meant. I agree to this as well. I think you should be free with one another I don't think married couples should be shy with one another.

I dont think we should take pictures of each other nude though.
I don't think God will bless that.

Back then when God created Adam and Eve............











Adam was outta' film.....

Can't tell a man not to take pictures of his wife 'nekkid'. He'll do this when she's sleeping

It's his nature to 'keep the view' alive. All they wanna do is 'see'. That's all I ever heard from my ex-husband was "Let me see." Men cannot exist without 'seeing' what they are naturally drawn to.

I can just see them at St. Peter's gate with a handful of pictures, saying "See"!

Just try and tell a man that he cannot have a nekkid' picture of his wife. They'll never 'hear' you. But they'll be steady 'clicking'

 

[Shimmie]

Where's Shimmie? I'm about to eat all my food waiting.....

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!! I got my bag of twizzlers and my take the cake ice cream! Im good to go!

I bought my Goobers.

Oh my!!! is that waht u really eating?!?!?! LOL thats looks yummy

Naaaachoooooos!!!! ***may I have some?


Where IS Shimmie...? She's getting a hungry crowd. I can't eat my Goobers until I get the good word. LOL

You precious ladies are tooooooo funny.


And I'm so hungry. We had guests in the office all morning and I had to kick them out.

I never had a chance to answer the rest of Mrs. TheBronx' questions about the really serious stuff. I think we're all on the same page, here.

Pass me dem' nacho's; hand me a goober and a twizzler. I'm ready to eat lunch.


ETA: I take my break at 2:00. By then I should be able to address the more serious questions. anal, oral, whatcha ma call its.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Oh my!!! is that waht u really eating?!?!?! LOL thats looks yummy

No, I'm having a salad, but that's what I would have LIKED to eat, let me tell you...

Naaaachoooooos!!!! ***may I have some?


Where IS Shimmie...? She's getting a hungry crowd. I can't eat my Goobers until I get the good word. LOL

I love Nacho's.....yummmy

Back then when God created Adam and Eve............











Adam was outta' film.....

Can't tell a man not to take pictures of his wife 'nekkid'. He'll do this when she's sleeping

It's his nature to 'keep the view' alive. All they wanna do is 'see'. That's all I ever heard from my ex-husband was "Let me see." Men cannot exist without 'seeing' what they are naturally drawn to.

I can just see them at St. Peter's gate with a handful of pictures, saying "See"!

Just try and tell a man that he cannot have a nekkid' picture of his wife. They'll never 'hear' you. But they'll be steady 'clicking'

You precious ladies are tooooooo funny.


And I'm so hungry. We had guests in the office all morning and I had to kick them out.

I never had a chance to answer the rest of Mrs. TheBronx' questions about the really serious stuff. I think we're all on the same page, here.

Pass me dem' nacho's; hand me a goober and a twizzler. I'm ready to eat lunch.


ETA: I take my break at 2:00. By then I should be able to address the more serious questions. anal, oral, whatcha ma call its.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Ohhhhhhh this is awesome!! I am waiting!!!!!!!!!

 

[Shimmie]

Ohhhhhhh this is awesome!! I am waiting!!!!!!!!!

Hi Married Lady

I just want to share how much your thread has blessed me. Even though I cut up like a fool with this topic, it really opened my heart all the more to be in loving prayer for our marriages.

With your permission, I have a Marriage Prayer that has been stirring in my heart that I would like to post here.

Ladies can I share with you what I've been sensing in my heart?

There are many Christian women who are really going 'through' in their marriages in the area of 'The Marriage Bed'. With all of their hearts they want to please God and yet please their husbands. And they are actually scared....very scared.

Please note: I'm not speaking of anyone that I know personally. Yet I think that each of you will agree that you also sense these issues too.

Look at these below and see if we agree. Again, it's no one that I know and no one has shared this with me personally.

:Rose: In my heart I see a wife who cries herself to sleep at night because she doesn't feel that she is 'romantically' adequate for her husband because she lacks experience.

:Rose: I thought of another wife who has done what she's not comfortable with, yet she fears her husband won't want her if she refuses.

:Rose: I also 'see' a wife who's not satisfied with her husband's love making and she's fearful that he will think 'ill' of her if she expresses to him, what she would enjoy.

These 'tears' and heartaches are real. There are many Christian women who feel so lost and so afraid. They've done the right thing by "waiting until marriage to have sex." But now it's become a nightmare for them.

Everyone: Please share your feelings. Our 'prayers' may be a 'breakthrough" for someone. I open my heart to your prayers, it will help my prayers to flow.

Thanks so much to each of you...

 

[Supergirl]

Shimmie said "put on a show"

OP, my thoughts were that if it is between the two of you only and both parties are comfortable with it then I don't see a problem. I don't think it's something that I would want to do, but that doesn't make it wrong.

Now, God bless your marriage and I pray that you guys will be together forever but you know that the unexpected can happen and I wouldn't want that video to end up being used as a weapon against you. (or you using it against him )

 

[Shimmie]

No, I'm having a salad, but that's what I would have LIKED to eat, let me tell you...

I love Nacho's.....yummmy

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Hi Married Lady

I just want to share how much your thread has blessed me. Even though I cut up like a fool with this topic, it really opened my heart all the more to be in loving prayer for our marriages.

With your permission, I have a Marriage Prayer that has been stirring in my heart that I would like to post here.

Ladies can I share with you what I've been sensing in my heart?

There are many Christian women who are really going 'through' in their marriages in the area of 'The Marriage Bed'. With all of their hearts they want to please God and yet please their husbands. And they are actually scared....very scared.

Please note: I'm not speaking of anyone that I know personally. Yet I think that each of you will agree that you also sense these issues too.

Look at these below and see if we agree. Again, it's no one that I know and no one has shared this with me personally.

:Rose: In my heart I see a wife who cries herself to sleep at night because she doesn't feel that she is 'romantically' adequate for her husband because she lacks experience.

:Rose: I thought of another wife who has done what she's not comfortable with, yet she fears her husband won't want her if she refuses.

:Rose: I also 'see' a wife who's not satisfied with her husband's love making and she's fearful that he will think 'ill' of her if she expresses to him, what she would enjoy.

These 'tears' and heartaches are real. There are many Christian women who feel so lost and so afraid. They've done the right thing by "waiting until marriage to have sex." But now it's become a nightmare for them.

Everyone: Please share your feelings. Our 'prayers' may be a 'breakthrough" for someone. I open my heart to your prayers, it will help my prayers to flow.

Thanks so much to each of you...

WOW Shimmie.. this is really and important topic about wives in so way feeling not good enough, scared to tell hubby they are not satisfied, and lacking commuication in hope to solely please him while forgetting about yourself. I think every woman married or not can relate to these things above. It happens so often, and prolly so much so that it just feels normal, and you tell yourself mentally to just go with the flow. BUT I do beleive that in order to have healthy relationships, communication is KEY! Did u all notice that around all of those 3 issues, communication is absent? I don't know alot of mind readers, so most time our spouse doesn't know just how we feel.. There are mulitpule ways to express our feelings, a letter, a card, an email, or just coming out and voiceing our concerns with love. Now I dont know you all personally but what I have found is that we dont talk enough about REAL issues with out mates. I beleive if we start doing that more and really being more expressive, things will be so much better. Thanks Shimmie, because I really stuggle with communicating in this way... I'm not a real mushy kinda girl, im not always huggin and kissin and being very expressive, I AM WORKING ON IT THO! HEHEHE

 

[Nice & Wavy]

You know, I just went to check my email and I saw that I got one from hubby. I opened it and it was a youtube video....

I'm not even going to tell you what it is, I want you to see and hear it for yourselves. For some, it may be corny, but for me...it was the best email I ever received!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbQjDxA7g-M

What a thoughtful and loving man, that he would remind me of how much he loves me in such a simple and basic way.

I cannot do without him...Thank you, Father for my husband!

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

You know, I just went to check my email and I saw that I got one from hubby. I opened it and it was a youtube video....

I'm not even going to tell you what it is, I want you to see and hear it for yourselves. For some, it may be corny, but for me...it was the best email I ever received!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbQjDxA7g-M

What a thoughtful and loving man, that he would remind me of how much he loves me in such a simple and basic way.

I cannot do without him...Thank you, Father for my husband!

Awww he must be romantic! Im sooo not romantic! hehehehe, but my hubby loves me for what I am! Thats the sweetest gift!

 

[Shimmie]

WOW Shimmie.. this is really and important topic about wives in so way feeling not good enough, scared to tell hubby they are not satisfied, and lacking commuication in hope to solely please him while forgetting about yourself.

I think every woman married or not can relate to these things above.
It happens so often, and prolly so much so that it just feels normal, and you tell yourself mentally to just go with the flow. BUT I do beleive that in order to have healthy relationships, communication is KEY!

Did u all notice that around all of those 3 issues, communication is absent? I don't know alot of mind readers, so most time our spouse doesn't know just how we feel..

There are mulitpule ways to express our feelings, a letter, a card, an email, or just coming out and voiceing our concerns with love. Now I dont know you all personally but what I have found is that we dont talk enough about REAL issues with out mates.

I beleive if we start doing that more and really being more expressive, things will be so much better. Thanks Shimmie, because I really stuggle with communicating in this way...

I'm not a real mushy kinda girl, im not always huggin and kissin and being very expressive, I AM WORKING ON IT THO! HEHEHE

I 'missed' it, Mrs.TheBronx.

Communication IS the key missing element here.

Sometimes I think that we've been so good at being 'chaste' before marriage, that we 'forget' that after marriage the veils can be removed. It's okay to remove the 'guarded' verbage of sexual intimacy and be free to communicate with 'our' husbands about sex.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

I 'missed' it, Mrs.TheBronx.

Communication IS the key missing element here.

Sometimes I think that we've been so good at being 'chaste' before marriage, that we 'forget' that after marriage the veils can be removed. It's okay to remove the 'guarded' verbage of sexual intimacy and be free to communicate with 'our' husbands about sex.

girl u hit the nail on the head!! that is sooo true!!!!

 

[Shimmie]

You know, I just went to check my email and I saw that I got one from hubby. I opened it and it was a youtube video....

I'm not even going to tell you what it is, I want you to see and hear it for yourselves. For some, it may be corny, but for me...it was the best email I ever received!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbQjDxA7g-M

What a thoughtful and loving man, that he would remind me of how much he loves me in such a simple and basic way.

I cannot do without him...Thank you, Father for my husband!

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Tenderly, your hubby loves you so....

The evening breeze caress the trees,
Tenderly.
The trembling trees embrace the breeze,
Tenderly.

Then you and I came wandering by,
And lost in a sigh were we.
The shore was kissed by sea and mist,
Tenderly.

I can't forget how two hearts met,
Breathlessly.
Your arms opened wide and closed me inside.
You took my lips, you took my love
So tenderly.

~

Your arms opened wide and closed me inside.
You took my lips, you took my love
So tenderly.

You took my lips, you took my love
So tenderly.
​

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

Beautiful........

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Awww he must be romantic! Im sooo not romantic! hehehehe, but my hubby loves me for what I am! Thats the sweetest gift!

Thanks, sis. Actually, he isn't very romantic...I'm the romantic one, usually. But, when he does get there, its so sweet and so loving, just like this video. A bit corny, but the best in the whole, wide world!

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Tenderly, your hubby loves you so....

The evening breeze caress the trees,
Tenderly.
The trembling trees embrace the breeze,
Tenderly.​

Then you and I came wandering by,
And lost in a sigh were we.
The shore was kissed by sea and mist,
Tenderly.​

I can't forget how two hearts met,
Breathlessly.
Your arms opened wide and closed me inside.
You took my lips, you took my love
So tenderly.​

~​

Your arms opened wide and closed me inside.
You took my lips, you took my love
So tenderly.​

You took my lips, you took my love
So tenderly.​

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

Beautiful........

See, now you got me

Yes, he does love me...I'm so blessed to have him in my life...blessed I say!!!

Aren't those words, beautiful? Oh, gosh....I love it!

 

[Shimmie]

girl u hit the nail on the head!! that is sooo true!!!!

I don't know what it is with me today, but Marriage Prayers are heavy upon my heart.

It's been so busy today, that I haven't been able to flow so that God can 'release' them. I thought about a separate thread, but I'd like to place a prayer here as well. I just wanted your 'okay'.

I'm not trying to 'hijack' the topic.

Mrs. Bronx, there's someone 'here', viewing this thread; they haven't posted and may not ever. But they are 'here'. God has a 'word' for them, through each of us.

I'll be back later tonight. I love you Ladies. We've had a lot of fun here.

Mrs. TheBronx started it..... .

:blowkiss: Back to work -- then 5:08 train.

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

I don't know what it is with me today, but Marriage Prayers are heavy upon my heart.

It's been so busy today, that I haven't been able to flow so that God can 'release' them. I thought about a separate thread, but I'd like to place a prayer here as well. I just wanted your 'okay'.

I'm not trying to 'hijack' the topic.

Mrs. Bronx, there's someone 'here', viewing this thread; they haven't posted and may not ever. But they are 'here'. God has a 'word' for them, through each of us.

I'll be back later tonight. I love you Ladies. We've had a lot of fun here.

Mrs. TheBronx started it..... .

:blowkiss: Back to work -- then 5:08 train.

Yes I feel exactly the same way!!! Someone is getting some help, including myself!!!!!!!!! I thank you!!! Imma go home a be mushy today.. JUST BECAUSE!

 

[Mrs.TheBronx]

Thanks, sis. Actually, he isn't very romantic...I'm the romantic one, usually. But, when he does get there, its so sweet and so loving, just like this video. A bit corny, but the best in the whole, wide world!

It sure is.. it makes it kinda special when u not always mushy to have spontaneous mushiness! LOL u know what i mean although it did't come out too neat.. LOL