sylver2, the same thing happened to me, but at the time, my daughter was 13, I relaxed her hair twice and I allowed it to grow out, by the time she was thirteen, Ayodele had natural bra length hair, well my ex-husband relatives were furious that I didn't have her hair permed and my ex-husband took Ayodele to the hairdresser and she relaxed and cut her hair in a bob. So my ex husband was mad and expected us to have a row at the airport. I had to keep my temper, so I allowed her hair to grow out and I had to cut of her hair, because it started to break, the relaxer, used on her hair was very strong, so her hair was quite short, my ex-husband was furious, so I told him, that is the consequence of relaxing her hair and I told him, it will grow back. You have a right to be angry, the problem is that how many people, we see have natural hair in the public eye, if we look at the beauty magazines, everything is geared to relaxed hair. Give yourself time to cool down, and your daughter will have to look after her hair, when she realises that it is not as easy as it looks, she will learn. Grandmother was very wrong also, however it is that mentality that relaxed hair looks better than natural hair.