Do you really believe you can do this?

[locabouthair]

Do you deep down believe you can grow your hair?

This is not about hair types or other people's hair.

I am asking do you believe in yourself and your ability to reach your hair goal.

If you dont believe your hair will grow, IT WONT.

This is something I am struggling with and maybe some other ladies are too.

I'm the type to dwell on my setbacks, which makes me doubt myself. And I think is the reason my hair wont grow.

Faith is a must, not just with hair but other goals as well.

Just wanted to share that this morning

 

[Highly Favored8]

I do believe and know I can do this. I have already done it =)!

 

[LunadeMiel]

I believe that I can do it most of time. Sometimes I do get a bit discouraged because I have so far to go. But when I look at other people's fotkis (Cichelle!) I know that it can be done.

 

[anon123]

I don't believe much in faith making things come true or not, more like people who really believe it will act accordingly and those actions are what bring things to fruition. But to answer the original question, yes, I believe I can grow my hair longer. I just don't know if I really want to. 6 days out of the week I think I do. On the 7th, wash day, I have my doubts.

 

[JessCNU]

I ask myself that question all the time. I never really knew how to take care of my hair until about two years ago. Sometimes I feel like I can but when I look in the mirror I sometimes have my doubts. I just try to stay focused and keep taking care of my hair. I am starting all over again so sometimes the finish line seems so far away

http://public.fotki.com/Jesshealthyhair/

 

[Cichelle]

I don't think I agree that if you don't believe your hair will grow, it won't. If you take care of your hair then, barring some health or scalp issue, it's going to grow regardless of what you think. I'm pretty sure about that. But I do agree, as someone has already said, that if you believe your hair will grow, your more likely to do the things you should for it. Plus, being positive makes the journey so much better.

I'm writing this because I know there have been times when I didn't feel positive about my hair or that I was doubtful and that was difficult enough. But then I got worried that these feelings and thoughts would negatively affect my hair and that made everything ten times worse. (Btw, I'm pretty sure my hair kept growing throughout all of that.) It's normal to have doubts and negative thoughts. I think its important to make a commitment to just continue to take care of your hair and try to be patient, even when you feel like you can't reach your goals.

Now that I've said that, I've always done a lot of visualization. I imagine myself with my hair at my goal length. I think that's really helped make me more patient and motivated about reaching my goals.

 

[locabouthair]

I ask myself that question all the time. I never really knew how to take care of my hair until about two years ago. Sometimes I feel like I can but when I look in the mirror I sometimes have my doubts. I just try to stay focused and keep taking care of my hair. I am starting all over again so sometimes the finish line seems so far away

http://public.fotki.com/Jesshealthyhair/

Thats how I feel.

I believe that I can do it most of time. Sometimes I do get a bit discouraged because I have so far to go. But when I look at other people's fotkis (Cichelle!) I know that it can be done.

Thats what makes me discouraged. but I have to tell myself health before length. and as much as I want 4 more inches, it aint gonna happen overnight or even in a month, so I just gotta wait.

I do believe and know I can do this. I have already done it =)!

Good for you!

I don't believe much in faith making things come true or not, more like people who really believe it will act accordingly and those actions are what bring things to fruition. But to answer the original question, yes, I believe I can grow my hair longer. I just don't know if I really want to. 6 days out of the week I think I do. On the 7th, wash day, I have my doubts.

This is what I mean.

 

[Miss*Tress]

I believe that I can do it most of time. Sometimes I do get a bit discouraged because I have so far to go. But when I look at other people's fotkis (Cichelle!) I know that it can be done.

I'm the opposite: seeing Cichelle's, FlowerHair's and Pokahontas' beautiful tresses discourages me and I think I'll never reach their lengths especially as it's taking me so long.

 

[locabouthair]

I don't think I agree that if you don't believe your hair will grow, it won't. If you take care of your hair then, barring some health or scalp issue, it's going to grow regardless of what you think. I'm pretty sure about that. But I do agree, as someone has already said, that if you believe your hair will grow, your more likely to do the things you should for it. Plus, being positive makes the journey so much better.

I'm writing this because I know there have been times when I didn't feel positive about my hair or that I was doubtful and that was difficult enough. But then I got worried that these feelings and thoughts would negatively affect my hair and that made everything ten times worse. (Btw, I'm pretty sure my hair kept growing throughout all of that.) It's normal to have doubts and negative thoughts. I think its important to make a commitment to just continue to take care of your hair and try to be patient, even when you feel like you can't reach your goals.

Now that I've said that, I've always done a lot of visualization. I imagine myself with my hair at my goal length. I think that's really helped make me more patient and motivated about reaching my goals.

I agree with the bolded. I can see myself with the length I want but setbacks after setbacks get me down, but I guess thats life. Patience and positivity are key.

 

[Cichelle]

I'm the opposite: seeing Cichelle's, FlowerHair's and Pokahontas' beautiful tresses discourages me and I think I'll never reach their lengths especially as it's taking me so long.

Oh no!

Please be patient. Just keep taking good basic care of your hair. We ALL feel discouraged or doubtful sometimes.

 

[Serenity_Peace]

I'm starting to believe because my hair hasn't ever been this long before. It's growing before my eyes. I don't know how long it will grow, but I feel at ease that it's at least growing. I'm trying not to think about it so much...

 

[NinasLongAmbition]

Yup I believe 100% I can grow my hair long with God, health, and great hair care practices..y not?

 

[lovenharmony]

It depends on the person's ability to be self disciplined. For many on this board, growing long hair is a challange and requires determination and commitment to be successful.

For the lady that gets easily discouraged or is constantly pessimistic, regimines often take a back seat or they may intentionally do something negative to their hair growth progress ie cut it off, stop moisturizing, trim constantly etc.

I have my moments, but I'm usually optimistic in nature and it definitely helps me to be patient in my hair journey. I look at pics of my hair length from over a year ago and I do notice that it has grown tremendously! My hair has gotten much thicker, stronger and is much healthier than a year ago so I know I have made progress.

 

[JessCNU]

I agree with the bolded. I can see myself with the length I want but setbacks after setbacks get me down, but I guess thats life. Patience and positivity are key.


I just looked at your Fotiki and you have made GREAT progress. I know it's hard to see because your the one going through the process but it is much healthier! Keep up the good work

http://public.fotki.com/Jesshealthyhair/

 

[frankie]

Yes. We. Can.

I know my hair is more than capable of growing longer and stronger because I've had too many short and sometimes really short cuts with the back tapered/shaved that grew back. I have no doubt about my hair's potential for great lengths.

In the meantime...I keep it low maintenance (read lazy) and allow my hair to sprout as it should...I should have never been introduced to the puff

Keep the faith!!!

 

[locabouthair]

I agree with the bolded. I can see myself with the length I want but setbacks after setbacks get me down, but I guess thats life. Patience and positivity are key.


I just looked at your Fotiki and you have made GREAT progress. I know it's hard to see because your the one going through the process but it is much healthier! Keep up the good work

http://public.fotki.com/Jesshealthyhair/

I dotn think I have at all but thank you.

 

[hopeful]

I dotn think I have at all but thank you.

Please update your fotki pics and date them for us, it's hard to tell exactly where you are at right now looking at your album. It also looks like you haven't updated in six months. Keep documenting your progress (if only for yourself). I had damage like you when I first came to LHCF so believe me I know how frustrating severe breakage can be. I think I was actually embarrassed because it was so hard to hide. It took my hair awhile to completely recover, but it did, and so will yours. Just keep babying and protecting the damaged areas.

 

[ScarletPhoenix]

I know that I can do this. My hair has been MBL before and I know it can do it again. I look at my hair growth in just one year and know that it can be done. Not to pat myself on the back but the growth that I have had in year some people don't have 2 years. I am committed to making this work for me and know that it can happen, but for now I am enjoying the process and the small victories that I have along the way!

 

[tapioca_pudding]

I definitely go through times where I feel like I'm never going to acheive my goals. I can't really SEE myself with hair longer than this, because I've never HAD hair longer than this. So that throws me off a bit at times and discourages me. Sometimes I have to stay off the board for a while, because seeing all these gorgeous heads of hair can make me feel like I'll never get there.

But during those times, I just shift my focus to something else I'm trying to achieve in my life, and do the 'normal' things to my hair (DC/Moisturize). Usually when I get back into hair mode, I'll notice some progress.

 

[naturalgurl]

Do you deep down believe you can grow your hair?

This is not about hair types or other people's hair.

I am asking do you believe in yourself and your ability to reach your hair goal.

If you dont believe your hair will grow, IT WONT.

This is something I am struggling with and maybe some other ladies are too.

I'm the type to dwell on my setbacks, which makes me doubt myself. And I think is the reason my hair wont grow.

Faith is a must, not just with hair but other goals as well.

Just wanted to share that this morning

You're exactly right. Thanks for sharing that because people don't get it. IF you focus on what you don't want and give your energy to that, that's what you'll get...what you DON"T want. If you focus on what you want and keep your focus there no matter what, giving all of your energy to it, that's what you'll get...what you WANT. I know my hair will be healthy, beautiful AND long, it's getting there day by day!

ETA~ IT's a great day to be alive!

 

[JustKiya]

I'm the opposite: seeing Cichelle's, FlowerHair's and Pokahontas' beautiful tresses discourages me and I think I'll never reach their lengths especially as it's taking me so long.

It depends on the person's ability to be self disciplined. For many on this board, growing long hair is a challange and requires determination and commitment to be successful.

For the lady that gets easily discouraged or is constantly pessimistic, regimines often take a back seat or they may intentionally do something negative to their hair growth progress ie cut it off, stop moisturizing, trim constantly etc.

I have my moments, but I'm usually optimistic in nature and it definitely helps me to be patient in my hair journey. I look at pics of my hair length from over a year ago and I do notice that it has grown tremendously! My hair has gotten much thicker, stronger and is much healthier than a year ago so I know I have made progress.

I think, a lot of times, that's the hard part about growth. How long have you been growing, Cichelle? Almost 5 years now? How long has FlowerHair, Irrisistable, Velvet, Sonce, etc been growing? YEARS - and those were years of steady, consistent regimes that worked for THEM.

I KNOW my hair can grow - but it's going to be a slow process. I've been growing for two years, and I'm just shoulder length. I've set the expectation in my mind that it's going to take at least TEN YEARS (of consistent, correct hair handling) to see the amazing length that I want - and with that in mind, it makes it easier, honestly, to stay inspiried and focus and secure.

This isn't a quick process - that what weaves are. This is a long term thang, and the longer you are shooting for, the longer it'll take - and the more dedicated you have to be.

 

[Misseyl]

Do you deep down believe you can grow your hair?
I'm the type to dwell on my setbacks, which makes me doubt myself. And I think is the reason my hair wont grow. -

Yes

I don't suffer setbacks because I only touchup every 16 weeks, use a flatiron every 2 weeks, use henna for color and nothing else. I don't experiment with my hair at all. So if it is going to grow, it will. I have been at collar bone now for months and my hair doesn't seem to be moving but I'm not giving up...I'll just continue doing what I'm doing because this is the longest it has every been so I must be doing something right

 

[Queen V]

I am committed to making this work for me and know that it can happen, but for now I am enjoying the process and the small victories that I have along the way!

Exactly. It's taken me a while to get to this point (patience does not come naturally to me), but I'm now enjoying going through the process and experiencing the pursuit of a long-term goal.

 

[zzirvingj]

Great post...

I do believe I can reach my hair goals...having that positive attitude is very important. You have to visualize yourself being at where you are trying to go in order to get there.

 

[chokolate miss]

Great post...

I do believe I can reach my hair goals...having that positive attitude is very important. You have to visualize yourself being at where you are trying to go in order to get there.

your hair IS my goal!! it's 100% beautiful.

but as far as my hair is concerned i know what i need to do, but it's hard sometimes. i'm natural an for me it can be quite time consuming. i want to do two strand twist to protect my hair, but i feel like putting them in makes me lose more hair than i retain. but as another poster stated it's about finding what works for you and continuing to do that. a lot of us are frustrated because we have been looking for that thing for what seems like a lifetime. but clearly looking at the lovely heads on here it CAN be done!!

 

[zzirvingj]

your hair IS my goal!! it's 100% beautiful.

but as far as my hair is concerned i know what i need to do, but it's hard sometimes. i'm natural an for me it can be quite time consuming. i want to do two strand twist to protect my hair, but i feel like putting them in makes me lose more hair than i retain. but as another poster stated it's about finding what works for you and continuing to do that. a lot of us are frustrated because we have been looking for that thing for what seems like a lifetime. but clearly looking at the lovely heads on here it CAN be done!!

Aw, thanks! *blushes*

I'm also natural and sometimes I still get discouraged with my hair too (i.e., 2 weeks ago when I went to detangle it, it was a hot mess and I ended up spending more time on my hair than I had planned/wanted to)....Over time, for me, I found that the simpler I kept things, the more my hair thrived. Finding things that worked for me has also been (and continues to be) a learning process...

Thank goodness these days we have resources like LHCF, youtube video tutorials and fotki picture tutorials...having access to these things and doing my own research has helped me alot. Especially being able to see what has worked for others who have a similar hair type to mine.

 

[chocobuddah]

I get discouraged because whenever I feel like I've found the "solution" to my hair problems, I rely on that and it turns out to be another setback. over the last year I tried to find magic in stylists, braids, aphogee, and then sew ins, and now that my hair is almost shoulder length (the longest and thickest it's EVER been) I'm seeing so much breakage, I'm afraid of where I'll be at the end of all this.
There is no doubt in my mind that my hair is growing, the only problem is that I can't find the happy medium between hiding my hair for a year and styling it to death; sometimes its easier to stop wanting long hair and opt to stay at trimmed chin length, but I just refuse to stop trying. I've quit a lot of things in life but even in my doubt i KNOW that if I stick with it, I'll learn what my hair wants, and we'll both be happy!

 

[sareca]

At this point, I'm 110% positive I can reach my goal. I wasn't always tho.

 

[prospurr4]

Yes, I do. But it does take time...and patience...and consistency...and more time. I am into my third year of "growing," and I expect to continue until my hair gets long enough for me....whatever length that is....

Starting at a little past neck length, I have already reached some of my short-term goals. I have gained great inspiration from looking at (actually studying) pics of the women here with beautiful hair, which has really helped me realize and imagine my own potential for long, healthy hair. I also think it's important to be grateful for what I've already achieved, because while I'm tryna get more, there's always someone who would love to have what I got.

Be encouraged OP and try not to focus on setbacks. Your hair is growing all the time, so just do what you can to retain it. Eventually, you'll reach lengths that will amaze you.

 

[the_UnPrettiest_pretty]

I do believe and know I can do this. I have already done it =)!

Couldn't agree with you more!! This is the longest my hair has ever been and I'm determined to grow it longer. I do know that I've had some mental setbacks that made me think for a while that it wasn't possible, but I turned my thoughts around and I'm more determined now than ever.