Mothers aren't lazy for not wanting to so their daughter's hair every night. Can mothers live please???
If you have a tenderheaded 4b child please back me up
Dr. Umar said no weave would be allowed at his magical mythical school.
A nice "protective style" for little girls is to braid their OWN hair...no extensions.
I must be too old but when I was growing up every little black girl in my school wore what we called plaits.
Some mothers plaited the hair every day, others less frequently. No fake crap hanging off of our heads. Most of us had nice thick hair as a result.
Mothers aren't lazy for not wanting to do their daughter's hair every night. Can mothers live please???
If you have a tenderheaded 4b child please back me up
Mothers aren't lazy for not wanting to do their daughter's hair every night. Can mothers live please???
If you have a tenderheaded 4b child please back me up
Mothers aren't lazy for not wanting to do their daughter's hair every night. Can mothers live please???
If you have a tenderheaded 4b child please back me up
Yes they are looking for convenience. What's wrong with that though?I don’t think anyone is lazy but they are looking for convenience. Before extentions were mainstream little girls hair was done one the regular basis. Tender headed or not.
I actually think that regular maintenance made it easier to do. My hair wasn’t nearly as tangled getting it done weekly/bi-weekly then when it was when I started detangling less frequently. Even when I went natural after becoming an adult I found my hair was easier to manage with regular detangling than leaving it be.
Yes they are looking for convenience. What's wrong with that though?
Also as @Kanky mentioned, the hair is still getting done regularly, just not rebraided daily. And these are age appropriate styles, I just don't get it.
But anyway these comments criticizing braid extensions are an excellent example of the obsession with policing black hair that I posted about initially. A mother does what works best for her situation with her daughter’s hair and suddenly she’s a lazy mother who is giving her kid low self esteem and bald edges. And this on a hair forum where people should know better.
I don’t have an issue with people doing things that convenience but people are acting as if not using extensions is a hardship or discrimination against black women. That’s not the case. Extentions make life easier and that is why the parents are mad.
We don’t need fake hair nor is it some kind of hardship to have black little girls feel good about themselves and their hair without extensions.
Extensions let a tenderheaded 4b use the pool with the same ease and frequency as a 1a without having to spend hours “sitting between someone’s knees” and having her hair done after every swim. I would count hours of haircare daily and not being able to swim as often as I wanted as a hardship. The extensions aren’t necessary for self esteem but not spending all your free time on hair care might be.
We swim several times a week. I wet my 4a hair, saturate it with conditioner and use swim cap then rinse afterwards and do a wash and go. I use a chelating shampoo every week or so. I can do this because I can wash and go and because I am a SAHM so my hair can be doing whatever. This routine doesn’t work for my 4b friend who can’t wash and go and has to work the next day, so she rarely joins us in the pool.
It isn’t that black girls need fake hair, it is that we need to be left alone to decide what makes sense for our hair and lifestyles without other people acting as the hair police. The policing, obsessing and criticizing is a lot more damaging to self esteem than some extensions could ever be.
Yeah, I am side eyeing parents for continuing to allow these people access to their children. There is clearly a long standing culture of allowing children to abused and protecting the abusers. This is at least the third time that they’ve been caught covering up large numbers of abused children.No Catholic institution is in a position right now to further alienate anyone. Catholic schools are closing down or consolidating everywhere throughout the United States, yet the Diocese of New Orleans finds the time to create and double-down on the pettiest of superficial rules? Maybe at another time, this would just be an inconvenient rule, but with what just came out of Pennsylvania, and similar reports forthcoming for other areas, this incident is spectacularly tone-deaf.
Don’t take my word for it. I hear there’s a whole hair forum with black women talking about their hair struggles.Hair gets policed period. My job has axed some white girl friendly styles too. That’s life. To me the idea that 4b can’t wash and go is foreign because my friend was able to do wash and go’s with short 4b hair but I’ll take your word for it. I’m 4a/4b and could wash and go with short hair but not long. I still washed on the regular and had a wet bun.
Don’t take my word for it. I hear there’s a whole hair forum with black women talking about their hair struggles.
As far white girl hair policing goes, sometimes people need equity, not equality. Banning extensions has a very different effect on white women’s hair situation. If someone banned sunscreen at an outdoor pool then most black people would be fine, or at least a lot less inconvenienced by the ban than white people who would have to use the pool a lot less because of the rule change. The braid extension thing is kind of like that. Black people get cheated a lot by rules that look fair on the surface but have a disparate impact.
We will agree to disagree. I am just tired of the narrative that our hair difficult, needs special consideration ect. You can wear box braids sans extentions and wash and care for your hair in that manner. My niece was able to maintain mid-back hair taking swimming lessons doing this. No extra hair just her own hair box braided.
I’ve worn and enjoyed extentions in my hair so I’m not anti-extentions. But I just can’t get behind the idea that we need,must, alter our hair in some way for it to be presentable. I don’t see the policy as anti-black hair. I think it is very pro-black hair. It basically reinforces the idea that our hair doesn’t need to be covered or added to in order to be presentable.
I was at a wedding this weekend and more than half of the women there had some type of fake hair on their heads. It’s just getting sad to me. But so many don’t see the issue with it. We are sending a subtitle message that black hair is needs to be covered or enhanced in someway just to be presentable.
ETA- My taking your word for it had nothing to do with black hair struggles. It was in reference to 4bs not being able to do wash and go’s. To me wash and go is a short to medium length thing. I don’t know to many long haired naturals that wash and go on the regular.
We will agree to disagree. I am just tired of the narrative that our hair difficult, needs special consideration ect. You can wear box braids sans extentions and wash and care for your hair in that manner. My niece was able to maintain mid-back hair taking swimming lessons doing this. No extra hair just her own hair box braided.
All of this. Seeing that poor baby crying over this b.s has me . They knew exactly what they were doing. And they waited, in order to make an example out of her in front of others for their own entertainment imo.Nothing was wrong with her hair! Absolutely. Nothing!! Completely age appropriate and totally low maintenance. Poor thing to find out the first day of school there is a new policy. Schools send out notices beforehand as to what the children will need for the upcoming school year. Why wasn't this included BEFOREHAND? Yes, this is school policy, but why has the school changed the policy? They took no consideration of their current student attendees and how it would affect them. I can see placing a limit on length, color, or even having portions of your head shaved off. However, this is absolutely ridiculous. As someone mentioned earlier, how do they even know that's not her hair. It looks very natural.
Yes, in other cultures/countries it may be customary to shave a girls head, but that is not the custom over here. A young girl taking swimming finds it much easier to maintain her hair during that semester with some sort of added hair. And let's be real, extensions has the connotation of white woman getting clip ons of long flowy hair. What this child has is braids. Yeah, I get extensions covers that, but still.
The answer is not an easy 'just go to another school'. This child's education has been interrupted through no fault of her own or her parents. This was a deliberate tactic used by the school. She has consistently been in braids prior, and the school changed the policy and did not notify anyone until the first day of school. I bet the school notified the parents how much various fees were, and what supplies were needed FOR THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL. Sorry this just made me really hot! Today is not the day.
It is tricky because I agree with @Kanky and @dicapr at the same time. I completely agree that girls should NOT be made to feel as though their hair NEEDS fake hair to be acceptable. I too find it sad when I see in certain spaces all the girls wearing fake shiny overly straight hair especially when more realistic hair is available. I absolutely hate the term 'good hair' when referring to hair other than type 4. I also think it is abusive when I see girls in pain and agony just to get their own hair and/ or extensions braided.
The distinction I make though in this scenario is that I think the Black community alone needs to decide what is acceptable in school, the work place etc. I am tired of the idea of what is acceptable has to be based on something white or approved by whites to be validated.
There should be flexibility allowed. Not everyone is skilled in braiding or styling any kind of hair. Maybe the mom has a young baby and works. Maybe the child is involved in lots of extracurricular activities that further limit time in addition to having a ton of homework (kids these have more homework and longer days thsn ever). Maybe the girl suffered a hair setback and needs a protective style that will help the child's esteem while her hair grows back. There are so many reasons why a person may choose a braided style with extra hair. I am not good at doing hair. I have very dense thick awesome hair, no matter the length etc. When I have gotten braids, I got extra hair added so that the style would last longer, my own hair would be protected and for fun. Also my sched would not allow me to be able to spend washing /conditioning/ rebraiding hair everyday.
I have grown up around all kinds of people and best believe there is always a desire (from non black women) to keep black women feeling bad about their hair. That is why I recoil when others make decisions that should be made collectively by Black people only.
I wonder what would happen if the girl showed up with her hair braided with hair that matched exactly her own hair but was bra strap length. Would they assume the girl had fake hair because Black girls "can't grow/have long hair"? How far would they go to prove it?
Ok after all that rambling lol, I am sure there is someone who can better express what I am trying to say. TIA
Also, most mothers work outside the home today. Unlike 30+ yrs ago, when they had more time.
I can't believe people are defending this policy by saying 'black girls shouldn't wear extensions anyway'. What does this have to do with anything? Especially since the principal said 'they're swinging it and things like that'. You've gotta be kidding me. All white girls do is swing their hair.... because they can't help it cuz their hair naturally swings. So are they making them cut their hair off?