I think black people are so dependent on weave and so attached and use it as a sense of self confidence to the point where if anyone talks about it we get offended and angry. Oh she said I had a weave! (well damn, don't you? Would you be mad if he called you out for having a relaxer or wearing a banana clip? Cornrows?)
Most white women think of fake hair as accessories unless they are genuinely going bald it really isn't a big deal to them. We got Jessica Simpson making phony ponies and Paris Hilton selling lace fronts and white folks are proud of wearing them and will gladly tell you what it is and where they got it. I have asked white girls if they have extensions all the time and none of them have flipped on anybody. They ask eachother and don't care either. You rarely see white people pulling weaves off of eachother as the first part of a fight, and you don't hear them calling eachother out on weaves in a negative way. Its just a hair accessory, and they know it.
Unfortunately black women don't realize that, which is why theyre so attached to it and so desperate to keep it a secret. We make something that should be regarded as an accessory into something embarrassing, when someone asks us about this accessory, we act like they asked if we had a yeast infection or if we used to be a man or something. I mean, is it really, really that crucial? The sad thing is it is obvious when people are wearing these things or not (I mean come on, if you are NL thin one day and SL thick the next we know you did some weaving...), and yet we still act like it was a tragedy and a crime against black people for somebody white to ask. Like its a family secret or something. It gets personal. Black women want people to believe they have hair like that we buy in weaves, yet we are offended when people ask if its a weave when we are actually wearing a weave. If its your real hair its cool to say "No, its mine" with a smile. But if its fake we get uncomfortable.
If you can wear the weave, you need to be fierce with it and accept whatever people throw at you. It is your choice, you need to work it or take the weave out. I mean you can either lie and say its yours (and admit to having issues) or admit its an accessory (and be normal) or be offended that somebody asked (which I think is odd, its like being mad somebody asking whether that purse is a real Coach bag--- you got it off the truck to convince somebody it was real and wanna be mad when they call you out?)
YOU SAID IT GURL!!! You've gotta be fierce with it no matter what ppl think about your hair. I've been known to break out in shiny, Bob-like wigs, a curly lion-like mane of BLOND WSL hair, phony-ponies to my butt. I think I wear them so good that people believe it's mine. But it's all about how you wear it. Hair, to me, is an accessory. Yes, I want it longer but when I want some fire-red hair one day, I may just whip out a wig or some braids. I'm not gonna dye my own hair. That costs too much money to look good for one day.
And If someone asks me, I don't lie. I've never lied about my real/fake hair. I say, "yeah, I got this at Hair Wonder/Weave Mart for $5.99 a pack." It's just an accessory to me. I get more people saying how pretty it is rather than ask if it's real. Many just say things like, "Your hair is long..." but that's because I dont go around acting like it's so precious and delicate and secretive. When I wear them, I'm bold about it. If I want a long ponytail, I'ma wear a long ponytail. I don't care if it "looks" real. It's all about the look you're trying to pull off. If I wanna look like Janet Jackson on the Feedback video, I'ma do it, my real hair or not.