I recently just got engaged to my fiancee and I'm so excited. But I get so irritated when I hear other women's point of view on marriage, they try to rain on my parade with comments like "If I woulda known what I know now I would've ran for the border" or "Girl, marriage ain't worth it". And most of these women openly express that they are unhappy in their marriage. Despite all the negativity (mainly from co-workers), I think marriage can be very successful with a lot of hard work dedication and more importantly God. Me and my fiance are both christians and are dedicated to living are life for Christ. I believe as Christians we view marriage differently than the world, for the most part. Can I hear from some married christian ladies who are actually happy, what are your views and advice on marriage?
Me and my dh are saved and walking and have been since before we met.
With that said...marriage is a wonderful thing! I think these women probably wanted to give you a realistic viewpoint, but they forgot to include the happy times!
As Christians, we are able to go directly to God when things get tough. And they WILL get tough, but we have a Helper and a Guide who will get us through.
Me and dh are happy, but it's not an all day, every day thing. There are times when I want to ring his neck.
Being a Christian doesn't mean you are perfect, so just remember that you are dealing with an imperfect human being. Pray for each other everyday, and treat your spouse the way you want them to treat you.
Love is not just something you feel, it's something you have to DO every day, and it doesn't always come naturally. There are lots of different ways to love your spouse, so you will never run out of things to say/do.
My advice...don't ask for any more advice right now.
You don't need to hear about other people's problems and issues and baggage. Pre-marital counseling will help you more than opinions (exept for ours, of course
).