I need a regimen....

I weave my hair because i pick at it and that is causing it to become uneven,my scalp is really itchy,im depressed not about my hair but i use to love OVERexperimenting in haircare now its a big bore to me

Hair type
My hair is fuzzy,in its natural state it is kinky straight,its relaxed now and my new growth comes out a soft wavy texture,please tell me am i a fine,4a???

Product wise I need:
a conditioning relaxer that is mild
Moisturizer for my real hair when its out,that keeps my hair soft but not waxed down
Scalp moisturizer for while in weave
Ultra conditioning shampoo for the weave
Shampoo that conditions but doesnt way my hair done too much
strong protein treatment that doesnt stink
moisturizing conditioner that doesnt coat the hair tooo much
something to tame the edges
 
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