ajoyfuljoy
Well-Known Member
I was having a discussion with a near and dear Caucasian friend of mine. I'm having a retro party and we were talking about how to wear her hair.
Mind you she has 1a very straight hair. She talked about teasing it to get it big and I said, "Well be careful, I don't want you to damage your hair."
Then she said, "Don't worry about me, my hair doesn't damage that easily."
The interchange just made me wonder about the state of my own hair. I had to ask myself, why do I go through so much drama to make my hair straight and "flowy" ?
It's so easy for others whose natural texture is like that. But when I do it, the littlest thing can make my altered hair be damaged. I gotta worry about the rain, heat, earth, wind and fire, lol! It feels like I gotta worry about everything sometimes. All of this and I only wear it down like 2 maybe 3 days out of the week!
I know naturals still have to be concerned about damage, but IMO it's no where near the way chemically-treated heads have to worry.
Then it also made me wonder, why can't I just let my hair "be" happy in it's natural state? She's 1a and she lets her hair be 1a. I'm 4a, why can't I just let my hair be 4a little coils the way it was genetically meant to be so I can stop "worrying" about my coily hair acting like it's supposed to be straight!
I'm all worried about my 1a friend damaging her hair by teasing it, but look what I do to my hair every three months when I relax!
I think about all this kind of stuff all the time. I actually kind of wish the question would go away
Sincerely,
a relaxed, confused & tempted to transition LHCF sista
Mind you she has 1a very straight hair. She talked about teasing it to get it big and I said, "Well be careful, I don't want you to damage your hair."
Then she said, "Don't worry about me, my hair doesn't damage that easily."
The interchange just made me wonder about the state of my own hair. I had to ask myself, why do I go through so much drama to make my hair straight and "flowy" ?
It's so easy for others whose natural texture is like that. But when I do it, the littlest thing can make my altered hair be damaged. I gotta worry about the rain, heat, earth, wind and fire, lol! It feels like I gotta worry about everything sometimes. All of this and I only wear it down like 2 maybe 3 days out of the week!
I know naturals still have to be concerned about damage, but IMO it's no where near the way chemically-treated heads have to worry.
Then it also made me wonder, why can't I just let my hair "be" happy in it's natural state? She's 1a and she lets her hair be 1a. I'm 4a, why can't I just let my hair be 4a little coils the way it was genetically meant to be so I can stop "worrying" about my coily hair acting like it's supposed to be straight!
I'm all worried about my 1a friend damaging her hair by teasing it, but look what I do to my hair every three months when I relax!
I think about all this kind of stuff all the time. I actually kind of wish the question would go away
Sincerely,
a relaxed, confused & tempted to transition LHCF sista