I have a friend who relied only on stylists since she was 9, didn't know how to do anything with her hair. Now she is grown and moved away from home, and instead of finding a new stylist or learning to take care of her relaxed hair, she BC'ed before we met. So when I met her, she had a TWA. Unfortunately she didn't know what to do with it, so she would get braids for a while, take them out and pick her hair out into an afro. She did this every day. Finally when I found LCHF I asked her to start a HHJ with me. She said no and I never mentioned it again, but out of the blue one day she asked me for help. She asked me to flat iron her hair so she could see its true length, and we'd go from there. She assumed she had a lot of shrinkage.
It has been over 2 years since she cut off all her relaxed hair.
She has neck length hair. :burning:
She cried and cried. I tried to explain to her that picking out her hair is bad. She broke off her ends every single time, and that's why she made no progress. None at all. I offered to braid her hair for free, every two weeks, just to keep her hands off it. I tried to teach her to braid her own hair. She wants to throw extensions in it again, but I'm not convinced she knows what to do with her hair when they come out. I keep trying to tell her that she needs to learn how to treat her hair and care for it, not hide behind extensions and weaves. It's a good protective style, but not if you're going to break off all your ends with a metal pick the minute the braids come out.
I tried to show her how some LCHF members went from a TWA to shoulder length in 6 months with healthy hair practices, but she didn't want to hear it. It's even worse now that her husband has said he's sick of the twa, and told her she needs to do something with her hair. I know it sounds mean but it's been over 2 years with the same style and it doesn't even suit her. She keeps saying she doesn't know what else to do, and I'm giving her alternatives left and right, but some people would just rather wallow in misery than make the effort to pick themselves up.