MsLizziA
Well-Known Member
So my sis is always complaining about how she wants to wear her hair down and straight and blah blah blah blah. Well, at one point she started to like her hair and then out the blue, she no longer likes it. So today i started thinking about texturzing it.
No offense to and texlaxed women or permed women( i need yall advice too) but i don't agree with chemicals even though i know i would know how to care for it with or without chemicals. I get so tired of seeing her unhappy about her hair.
Now whether is natural, relaxed, or texturized she is going to be wearing it up because she wants to wear it down. I was not raised like that n i won't raise her to have hers down all the time because i believe little girls should remain little girls. Its ok to wear it down sometimes but she is already tall and doesn't look 8 so im not feeding into that looking older image.
Anyway i am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have shown her what other people say about their hair, shown her women with hair JUST like hers, and different styles as well. She just doesnt like it. Im starting to feel like im trying to force her to like something she just isn't feeling. I feel like if i DO texturize it, ill just be feeding into the negative image that she has towards her hair. So i really don't know what i should do.
Alot of the kids at her school don't wear their hair natural which is suprising considering they are only in the 2nd grade erplexed. On one hand im saying, i want her to be happy and feel confident about her hair. On another hand im thinking, she's only 8, what the hell does she know??
I have straightened it once for her and curled it and it was so pretty, she loved it but when she played outside, it rained so that was a wrap for that. Down here the weather doesn't really allow me to straighten her hair often and even if it did, im on a not heat regimen for her because she just had 2 inches chopped because her ends were horrible.
Some much needed advice would be appreciated. .... and a hug..
Signed
- a 23 year old who is being a mother figure to her strong willed 8 year old sister and this shyt is hard...
No offense to and texlaxed women or permed women( i need yall advice too) but i don't agree with chemicals even though i know i would know how to care for it with or without chemicals. I get so tired of seeing her unhappy about her hair.
Now whether is natural, relaxed, or texturized she is going to be wearing it up because she wants to wear it down. I was not raised like that n i won't raise her to have hers down all the time because i believe little girls should remain little girls. Its ok to wear it down sometimes but she is already tall and doesn't look 8 so im not feeding into that looking older image.
Anyway i am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have shown her what other people say about their hair, shown her women with hair JUST like hers, and different styles as well. She just doesnt like it. Im starting to feel like im trying to force her to like something she just isn't feeling. I feel like if i DO texturize it, ill just be feeding into the negative image that she has towards her hair. So i really don't know what i should do.
Alot of the kids at her school don't wear their hair natural which is suprising considering they are only in the 2nd grade erplexed. On one hand im saying, i want her to be happy and feel confident about her hair. On another hand im thinking, she's only 8, what the hell does she know??
I have straightened it once for her and curled it and it was so pretty, she loved it but when she played outside, it rained so that was a wrap for that. Down here the weather doesn't really allow me to straighten her hair often and even if it did, im on a not heat regimen for her because she just had 2 inches chopped because her ends were horrible.
Some much needed advice would be appreciated. .... and a hug..
Signed
- a 23 year old who is being a mother figure to her strong willed 8 year old sister and this shyt is hard...