Isis, I use flowers (which makes me feel ultra feminine) sticks, I have even used what was suppose to be a bookmark but was a paper clip with a real pretty large butterfly (no one knew and it didn't hurt my hair
) Don't worry about what other people are wearing wear what makes you feel good. I also found some nice things at Claire's. I don't know if you have one but it is a accessory store. Oh, I forgot, my friends like it. I take old jewelry like wooden necklaces, beaded necklaces, cooper necklaces, African and Native American inspired jewelry and in it around my bun. There is always the trust scarf to. I also like jewelry on my pins. I doin't buy them like this becasue they don't seel the pins with the wax bulbs on them like this. These are the only ones I use because they do not hurt my scalp. HTH