filthyfresh
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My aunt, who is a faithful weave wearer, bought me an IW which is about BSL on me (my ideal length). My mom, who is totally against weaves, but will support me getting a wig thinks that I look completely ridiculous with it on.
She proceeds to yell at me about how horrible I look in it (I took a picture to show my SO and ended up showing her). I tell her that I'm wearing it to grow my hair out and protect it. She says, "YOUR HAIR WILL NEVER BE LONG! IT JUST WON'T HAPPEN! YOUR HAIR WON'T GROW PAST WHERE IT IS NOW! YOU'RE NOT MEANT TO HAVE LONG HAIR! NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, YOU'LL NEVER HAVE THAT!" And it made me cry, truthfully. Because here is my mother, of all people, telling me that I can't do something. She's always been the person to encourage me in anything I did. But now since I've been on LHCF, she just gives me this look of contempt when I talk about hair products or when I mention that I'm transitioning. Her answer to that is, "YOU NEED A PERM!" I told her that I'm trying something new and that I wanted to have healthy hair.
Plus, I told her I never got to do that because she relaxed me at age 5. She said, "I permed your hair when you were a kid and you never got another one until you were a teenager." ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I got a relaxer every time she did! Which was every 5-6 weeks since I was 5! I say to her, so what did you think you were paying for? Just a total disregard for my hair care as a kid. It's ridiculous. Now I'm feeling self-conscious and afraid to wear my IW, which hurts because 1. my aunt spent her money on it 2. I really like it 3. my SO loves it and 4. I'm supposed to be an adult at 22, and my mother's"opinion" (arrogance/bossy-ness/know-it-all-ness) still has the ability to bring me to tears. [sigh] I don't know what to do ladies. I'm feeling severely discouraged & I'm just...through.
She proceeds to yell at me about how horrible I look in it (I took a picture to show my SO and ended up showing her). I tell her that I'm wearing it to grow my hair out and protect it. She says, "YOUR HAIR WILL NEVER BE LONG! IT JUST WON'T HAPPEN! YOUR HAIR WON'T GROW PAST WHERE IT IS NOW! YOU'RE NOT MEANT TO HAVE LONG HAIR! NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, YOU'LL NEVER HAVE THAT!" And it made me cry, truthfully. Because here is my mother, of all people, telling me that I can't do something. She's always been the person to encourage me in anything I did. But now since I've been on LHCF, she just gives me this look of contempt when I talk about hair products or when I mention that I'm transitioning. Her answer to that is, "YOU NEED A PERM!" I told her that I'm trying something new and that I wanted to have healthy hair.
Plus, I told her I never got to do that because she relaxed me at age 5. She said, "I permed your hair when you were a kid and you never got another one until you were a teenager." ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I got a relaxer every time she did! Which was every 5-6 weeks since I was 5! I say to her, so what did you think you were paying for? Just a total disregard for my hair care as a kid. It's ridiculous. Now I'm feeling self-conscious and afraid to wear my IW, which hurts because 1. my aunt spent her money on it 2. I really like it 3. my SO loves it and 4. I'm supposed to be an adult at 22, and my mother's"opinion" (arrogance/bossy-ness/know-it-all-ness) still has the ability to bring me to tears. [sigh] I don't know what to do ladies. I'm feeling severely discouraged & I'm just...through.