Lylddlebit
Well-Known Member
Just wondering...
...how often we each enjoy our hair. I ask this broadly so you can answer based on enjoying your style, enjoying wash day, enjoying how good your hair feels, experiencing hair freedom, meeting that latest milestone, that hair risk that paid off, how often you are reminded how fly your hair is at any given moment, etc. The list of ways to enjoy your hair goes on and on. So how are we enjoying our hair these days? How often are you enjoying your hair?
I do think it is important to enjoy my hair often enough to justify the effort and time I put into it when I do a mental "Cost-Benefit" analysis. I am a natural who wears my hair straightened half the time, but I also love my hair in the natural and stretched states. I consider wash day my "me time" where I lock DH and my little one out of the room and let the stress of life wash away. I also only wear protective styles, natural styles, straightened styles, and stretched styles that I like/enjoy. So, between wash day and cute styles, I enjoy my hair regularly to frequently across conditions and styles. I have bad hair days like everyone else but those are just a cute cap/hat, restyle or wash day away to get away from.
Some years I enjoy my hair every single day of that year and setbacks are nowhere in sight. If I am recovering from a setback or get very busy I sometimes shift the frequency of enjoying my hair to the "sometimes" or "infrequently" category, but that isn't for years on end. When I enjoy my hair less than the "sometimes" category that is a temporary means to an end where I am learning something new or recovering from something serious. Long term, those temporary experiences enhance my overall regimen and hair journey and I consider them worth it.
I feel like my hair has a rewards system embedded into it that I have been privileged to uncover. When it is "Plain Jane" it feels so soft and nice on wash day, which is worth it. When I put a modicum of effort into styling, it looks great and opens up versatility. When I have a dreaded setback (not often, but it happens), I set a timer on how long I allow myself to be mad (1 day to one week). Following that, I set my new goal and I ALWAYS offset my setback by treating myself to a hair splurge to motivate getting back on track to my area of focus. It's hard for me to stay mad at my hair when hair treats are knocking at my door
Enjoying my hair prevents my hair from being a burden and it prevents me from responding to it irrationally during a moment of frustration. Also, meeting my hair goals years ago puts things into perspective when I am displeased by my hair. For me, frustrations don't last long, and even when I have setbacks they don't take lengthy times to recover from. Been there, and learned from that. Now, this post isn't to push my regimen or way on anyone else, but I do want visibility to "happy hair" on this board because I know we all have moments of hair frustration that aren't always easy to see beyond. Been there, and gained perspective from that. I also know many ladies on here have beautiful heads of hair across lengths, textures, styles, and regimens they are rocking to the fullest and I want to hear/see more about that! So let's discuss how we have happy hair, however, and whenever we ENJOY rocking it.
The poll is private and you can change your vote to suit how the condition of where you are in your journey fluctuates and progresses.
Please share how often you enjoy your hair and if you are in a good place with your hair please share any adjacent thoughts or processes that help the journey stay enjoyable. Pictures are encouraged. Even if you don't enjoy your hair as much as you'd like but have a great hair day, I would love to see/ hear about it. Happy hair is encouraged. How you return to enjoying your hair after a rut, setback, or being discouraged is helpful too. Hopefully, this will be a thread we come back to the times we get in a rut, become discouraged, have a setback, or just need to be reminded how fly our hair is and how we could get back to enjoying it during the moments we aren't.
Please share your happy hair!
...how often we each enjoy our hair. I ask this broadly so you can answer based on enjoying your style, enjoying wash day, enjoying how good your hair feels, experiencing hair freedom, meeting that latest milestone, that hair risk that paid off, how often you are reminded how fly your hair is at any given moment, etc. The list of ways to enjoy your hair goes on and on. So how are we enjoying our hair these days? How often are you enjoying your hair?
I do think it is important to enjoy my hair often enough to justify the effort and time I put into it when I do a mental "Cost-Benefit" analysis. I am a natural who wears my hair straightened half the time, but I also love my hair in the natural and stretched states. I consider wash day my "me time" where I lock DH and my little one out of the room and let the stress of life wash away. I also only wear protective styles, natural styles, straightened styles, and stretched styles that I like/enjoy. So, between wash day and cute styles, I enjoy my hair regularly to frequently across conditions and styles. I have bad hair days like everyone else but those are just a cute cap/hat, restyle or wash day away to get away from.
Some years I enjoy my hair every single day of that year and setbacks are nowhere in sight. If I am recovering from a setback or get very busy I sometimes shift the frequency of enjoying my hair to the "sometimes" or "infrequently" category, but that isn't for years on end. When I enjoy my hair less than the "sometimes" category that is a temporary means to an end where I am learning something new or recovering from something serious. Long term, those temporary experiences enhance my overall regimen and hair journey and I consider them worth it.
I feel like my hair has a rewards system embedded into it that I have been privileged to uncover. When it is "Plain Jane" it feels so soft and nice on wash day, which is worth it. When I put a modicum of effort into styling, it looks great and opens up versatility. When I have a dreaded setback (not often, but it happens), I set a timer on how long I allow myself to be mad (1 day to one week). Following that, I set my new goal and I ALWAYS offset my setback by treating myself to a hair splurge to motivate getting back on track to my area of focus. It's hard for me to stay mad at my hair when hair treats are knocking at my door
Enjoying my hair prevents my hair from being a burden and it prevents me from responding to it irrationally during a moment of frustration. Also, meeting my hair goals years ago puts things into perspective when I am displeased by my hair. For me, frustrations don't last long, and even when I have setbacks they don't take lengthy times to recover from. Been there, and learned from that. Now, this post isn't to push my regimen or way on anyone else, but I do want visibility to "happy hair" on this board because I know we all have moments of hair frustration that aren't always easy to see beyond. Been there, and gained perspective from that. I also know many ladies on here have beautiful heads of hair across lengths, textures, styles, and regimens they are rocking to the fullest and I want to hear/see more about that! So let's discuss how we have happy hair, however, and whenever we ENJOY rocking it.
The poll is private and you can change your vote to suit how the condition of where you are in your journey fluctuates and progresses.
Please share how often you enjoy your hair and if you are in a good place with your hair please share any adjacent thoughts or processes that help the journey stay enjoyable. Pictures are encouraged. Even if you don't enjoy your hair as much as you'd like but have a great hair day, I would love to see/ hear about it. Happy hair is encouraged. How you return to enjoying your hair after a rut, setback, or being discouraged is helpful too. Hopefully, this will be a thread we come back to the times we get in a rut, become discouraged, have a setback, or just need to be reminded how fly our hair is and how we could get back to enjoying it during the moments we aren't.
Please share your happy hair!
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