this hispanic girl told me once when i was wearing my hair in loose braidout: " wow is that all your hair? it's long!" mind you, my hair was about 1" from brastrap or something like that. But anyway, I didnt' even consider it as a compliment because she has mid-back length hair that she doesn't even consider that long and it seems like it was just a pity compliment to me... so i was like 'hm thanx' ....
there's this girl at my school, she's Haitian too and in 9th grade we started off with the same hair length, and right now, she's just a few inches from her waist, and trust me, we have the same hair texture, we're both relaxed. some might say something like how they dont see haitians or blacks with long hair, and another will say PersonA (the girl) has waistlength hair and they'll be like 'yeah well that's because she's part white"... and i keep thinking wow... i could have been right there with her and proved them wrong, but I didn't know how to care for my hair back then. There's this other girl too PersonB with very long hair and she has SOME white ancestry... and everyone attributes it to that too... she's a protective style wearer, we have the same hair texture.... she is also relaxed. i used to admire her hair but now when I look at it, i'm like ok it's long, but not with much body, and I've learned to appreciate my hair more. I still admire personA 's hair and hope to have mine long and thick like hers... but i'm not obssessing. I will get there sometime next year with LHCF.
i want to be at length that makes me happy, and one at which people wont be able to give me these PITY compliments, a length that EVERY race considers long, so they dont' start giving me that 'is that your hair?" crap