kisz4tj said:Well I did test the waters. But because we both knew it was wrong we weren't totally uninhibited and we always felt guilty. Basically I couldn't gauge how our sex life would be based on our pre-marital experience together. I mean even on our wedding night...I was thinking God do I have to??? Part of that was it hard for my brain to understand that it was okay. The guilt stayed with me on our entire honeymoon.
To answer the question if I had found out that I didn't enjoy it I would not have married him.
kisz4tj said:Well I did test the waters. But because we both knew it was wrong we weren't totally uninhibited and we always felt guilty. Basically I couldn't gauge how our sex life would be based on our pre-marital experience together. I mean even on our wedding night...I was thinking God do I have to??? Part of that was it hard for my brain to understand that it was okay. The guilt stayed with me on our entire honeymoon.
To answer the question if I had found out that I didn't enjoy it I would not have married him.
kisz4tj said:He was never selfish always very giving and desiring to please.
kisz4tj said:I would just like for us to be real. The reward is worth it but this christian walk is not polly-annish.
kisz4tj said:I would just like for us to be real. The reward is worth it but this christian walk is not polly-annish.
Sweet C said:You got that right! But I know that God is able to exceedingly and abundantly above all that you can ask or think, but it takes work on our part. We must operate inside of God's Word, and expect his results.
sprungonhairboards said:Exactly! But when we have our own expectations and desires I think that's when we try to fit God into OUR world and get him to deliver OUR results.
...just speaking in general not necessarily in relation to this thread.
Supergirl said:I believe that if we honor God by waiting, He in turn will bless us for our faithfulness in Him and obedience. In other words, I don't think He would give us a horrible sex life after we did the right thing and waited 'til marriage.
Honeyhips said:This is how I feel. I totally trust God taht he will send me someone compatible in this area. How can I not when I trust him for everything else. OR do I not trust God. Plus, practice makes perfect.
Honeyhips said:This is how I feel. I totally trust God taht he will send me someone compatible in this area. How can I not when I trust him for everything else. OR do I not trust God. Plus, practice makes perfect.
JuJuBoo said:OKAAAY!! Shoot...we have the rest of our lives to practice! I'll buy some books if I have to. We gonna MAKE it work!
JuJuBoo said:OKAAAY!! Shoot...we have the rest of our lives to practice! I'll buy some books if I have to. We gonna MAKE it work!
JuJuBoo said:OKAAAY!! Shoot...we have the rest of our lives to practice! I'll buy some books if I have to. We gonna MAKE it work!
vevster said:I hope no one on this thread gets disappointed!
JuJuBoo said:What's dissapointing is giving your heart and your body to some dude that's not worth it!
No one was implying this. We just don't agree in testing the waters before hand.classimami713 said:I agree with Ann Driena. Just because we're not supposed to have sex before marriage doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about it with our potential husband. (Of course, there's an appropriate stage during dating/courtship to have this discussion. . .not just ANY man needs to know your sexual history and desires.)
People need to go into marriage with FULL disclosure about all areas of the marriage including sex. Sex is a BIG deal and people should be able to share how they feel about sex with each other.
But seriously, if you can't even talk about it with your husband-to-be, then maybe you shouldn't be doing it with him either.
Honeyhips said:No one was implying this. We just don't agree in testing the waters before hand.