I grew up in the church and can remember when I started to pull away from it, probably around Jr. High/High School. My parents took us to church and enrolled us in the church's private school which was great but problems in their marriage/relationship I think took a toll on our family. When one sin is let in, it makes way for other sins to be let in. Since the head of the household is sinning (cheating) he can't focus on the the righteous things and how he should be leading his family to Christ. They eventually divorced while I was in college, but I feel our family was never the same since I found out about the cheating when I was 9. Arguing, etc. about it means the hurt is still there and those feelings/thoughts from then just will keep reappearing and not disappear.
During college I went to church four times in 4 years. The first time just to go, the second time just to go and it was a youthful church on campus, and the third I was home for winter break and Christmas was on a Sunday. The fourth time I went by myself and felt the Lord pulling me to the alter, but I was too timid to go up to the alter. Eventually my bf and I moved in together, I got pregnant, broke up. I finished college and was a single mother but still wasn't leading the life I needed to. My mom eventually moved to the city I was living in to help with my daughter and always said I needed to attend church, but she never went. I knew I needed God, but kept putting it off. Earlier this year 2 of my uncles were working on the railroad and came to stay with my mom, me, my daughter, and my brother. One is an ordained minister. He would always have lectures! I believe God brought him at the time when I really wanted to get saved and was yearning for the Lord to give me that push that I needed. The next month, Feb 8, 2009 to be exact, after attending church for about a month, I walked up to the alter and got saved.
I pray daily, ask God for discernment and worship daily. I always knew what I needed to do but always put it off saying, "Well, if I get saved, I can't listen to this, or I can't do this." I don't need to do those things! People may look at me and say well you just got saved. But, my holiness and love for God is no different in his eyes. He's happy for me. Some may say you had a child out of wedlock, you were fornicating, shacking up. I agree! I was! That's why I can say "Don't do it!". I can tell you why not and why you shouldn't because I've been there. We were born into sin, but we don't have to stay in sin. I repented and God forgave me and HE will forgive you as well. Now sometimes it gets hard but I praise, worship, pray and talk with HIM to help me through the tough times. Only HE can bring you out the the darkness. Through his grace and glory I've found the light that I was looking for and have set a new standard for my daughter as well as strengthened my relationship with my mother and got her back to attending church.