Look what she did to my baby's hair.....cry, mad, angry!! I NEED HELP!!!

[AJamericanDiva]

Hey Girl!
Long time no see. I would definitely be pissed off if I returned to see my daughter's hair like this. I only wished you were living closer as I would give her a deep condition every week until it grows back. I'm praying for you.

 

[ChanelNo5]

She need her A$$ whooped!!!

 

[slimting]

Can you put her in box braids and then just request to have it re-braided every 2 months until you get back? Does she have any other relatives she can stay with?

How was her hygiene and hw/school grades? If your cousin was that negligent with her hair I wonder what else was she slipping on with your daughter?

Your daughter has a beautiful smooth complexion btw. I wish my skin was like that.

 

[Blaque*Angel]

Sorry that that happened. Have you thought of having her hair braided? Maybe you can find someone to make sure she keeps it in braids while you're gone. Was your cousin apologetic at all?

i agree with braids. my heart goes out to you and your daughter

 

[LondonDiva]

I just want to say I'm sorry this happened to the both of you. Your little girl (same name as me except for the first 'i' ) had a beautiful head of hair. Her saving grace is at 8 years old you have time to nurture is back.

I'm sorry I'll tell it straight I'm a firm believer in a$$ whoopings and they would have had to call the police on me that night. I'm so fuelled right about now looking at these pictures.

Your cousin is trifling. Sorry I call it like I see it. She didn't respect you or your wishes.

 

[Lucky's Mom]

OMG.

I am stunned.

Wow........


I am so so sorry.....


I would braid that baby's hair.... You can bring it back to life......

 

[Lady Esquire]

I have two little girls. If this happened to one of them, I would have her go natural.

Purchase a heat cap for her deep conditioning treatments, at Sally's it cost about $25-30. That way, she can carry it to who's ever house she goes to for her treatments, while you're away.

Buy a large stock of ALL the shampoos, conditioners, leave-ins, moisturizers, and oils that you would like her to use.

Write down a routine for someone to follow.

I agree with the braids that the other ladies have suggested. But the person she goes to needs to be gentle on her hairline, temples, and nape (because those are the most sensitive spots w/damaged hair). And make sure the braids are not too tight or heavy.

Also, I would not leave them in for 2 months...not at first. I would put them in for no more than 5-6 weeks at a time, do some intense protein and moisture DCs in between, and then put them back in again. Maybe even every month (4 wks) at first would even be better. Buy a light braid spray to maintain them and to keep her roots moist and clean (or maybe spritz them with plain water and some peppermint oil). Switch up the direction of the braids each time you put them in, so they do not put too much stress on the same strands and areas, over and over again.

Good luck. Keep us posted.

 

[KPH]

Okay, let's all calm down (shaking with anger while I'm typing this). My suggestion is to give cutie pie Naomi a lil project to do. The her hair braided, not french braids but individuals and not micro. Leave her with the Sulfur 8 spray. Show her how to Spray her hair a few times every morning and every night and leave some kinda chart/calendar for her to mark on when she's done to keep track. Make it seem fun and a favor for mommy. whatever you do, don't depend on nobody else to have full control over her hair. With Naomi having this assignment, even if whoever is suppose t help her with it, her hair will be getting what it needs to repair it. HTH

I'm sooooooooooooo sorry this has happened. Now, let me drink a glass of wine, cuz i'm feeling pissed and a lil violent.

 

[Jessica Rabbit]

She need her A$$ whooped!!!

I just want to say I'm sorry this happened to the both of you. Your little girl (same name as me except for the first 'i' ) had a beautiful head of hair. Her saving grace is at 8 years old you have time to nurture is back.

I'm sorry I'll tell it straight I'm a firm believer in a$$ whoopings and they would have had to call the police on me that night. I'm so fuelled right about now looking at these pictures.

Your cousin is trifling. Sorry I call it like I see it. She didn't respect you or your wishes.

Dude, I keep coming back here waiting off OP to post her cousin's simple arse excuses. I'm with you ladies, I would have had to grab my child and walk out to keep from stomping a mudhole in her.

 

[january noir]

WOW. This is MESSED UP! I am angry too. What a beautiful daughter you have. She is still beautiful. Don't let her start feeling self conscious about her hair. It will come back stronger and better before. Just don't let your relative near her hair again if you can help it!

Breathe....

 

[Impresaria]

I am so sad. I am more upset at something I see in this MUCH deeper than her hair. She is the ONLY Black little girl in her class. I take extreme pride in taking care of my children and making sure that they look well-groomed and put together. To think that my poor baby was going to school, cheer-leading practice, just out and about LOOKING TORE UP by the head just KILLS ME!!! Her hair was completely natural. I can look at the little new growth and see that the last perm was maybe about two weeks ago? I asked my cousin WHAT THE HELLLL....she said that Naiomi's hair was:

UNMANAGEABLE!!
HARD TO COMB!!
TOO THICK!!
A PERM WAS THE ONLY THING TO FIX IT!!

I said BULL****! I have been managing it fine for 8 years and YOU CALL THIS FIXED??!! How is what it looks like now fixed! Oh, I get it, it's fixed to look like all the other little Black girls running around with broken off, damaged hair.

I am equally MAD at my own mother and two sisters who live 45 minutes away who never cared to check on their ONLY grand-daughter and niece. That's my biggest dilemna, finding someone who is going to consistently care for her hair.

MAD!!

 

[Nayeli]

But you left all the things that your daughter's hair needed. This is rediculous. Perhaps you can get even more suggestions from the children's hair care section. And btw, your daughter is too adorable!

 

[Jynkx]

She need her A$$ whooped!!!

trust me when i say i am non-violent, but i agree with this statement! you DO NOT mess with other peoples kids.

 

[Allandra]

(((((hugs)))))

Oh my dear. I am truly upset for you. This makes no sense at all. If I were in your shoes, I don't know what I would do or say to the cousin. How long will you be on vacation to start nursing her hair back to health?

 

[tiffers]

I have to say it: your cousin is a triflin

I CANNOT BELIEVE what I just read and saw. I'm just shocked, I'm disgusted. Words can't describe how sorry I am that this happened to your beautiful baby girl. OMG.

Okay, now that I got that out..... I think your best bet is to show her how to do her hair herself. Find someone who's willing to cornrow her hair every 2-3 weeks. Make it known to her caregiver that there will be NO relaxers and NO trims. Go out and buy enough shampoo, condtioner, braiding hair and braid spray to last until your return. Also get her a stocking cap to put over her braids when she washes, to keep them from getting frizzy. Show her exactly how to wash her hair, how much product to use, etc. Also type out the directions in case she forgets and tape them up in her bedroom (and make few extra copies in case she loses one) I think it would help if you got her a cute little calendar and wrote ''WASH DAY!'' on every Saturday, so that she won't forget to wash and condition once a week.

PLEASE update when you can, you guys will be in my thoughts. I'm so sorry you have to go through this

 

[GoingBack]

Spiced,

I am so sorry that this happened to you. When do you return home permanently? At this point, it is probably best to cut off the damaged parts, get it braided and teach your daughter how to take care of her own hair. She is young, but not too young to learn and grasp the information that you give to her.

 

[WomanlyCharm]

I am so sad. I am more upset at something I see in this MUCH deeper than her hair. She is the ONLY Black little girl in her class. I take extreme pride in taking care of my children and making sure that they look well-groomed and put together. To think that my poor baby was going to school, cheer-leading practice, just out and about LOOKING TORE UP by the head just KILLS ME!!! Her hair was completely natural. I can look at the little new growth and see that the last perm was maybe about two weeks ago? I asked my cousin WHAT THE HELLLL....she said that Naiomi's hair was:

UNMANAGEABLE!!
HARD TO COMB!!
TOO THICK!!
A PERM WAS THE ONLY THING TO FIX IT!!

I said BULL****! I have been managing it fine for 8 years and YOU CALL THIS FIXED??!! How is what it looks like now fixed! Oh, I get it, it's fixed to look like all the other little Black girls running around with broken off, damaged hair.

I am equally MAD at my own mother and two sisters who live 45 minutes away who never cared to check on their ONLY grand-daughter and niece. That's my biggest dilemna, finding someone who is going to consistently care for her hair.

MAD!!

A perm FIXED it?!?! Oh yeah, tha t fixed it all right.

OMG, I'd have punched your cousin right in her stupid mouth. *taking a deep breath*

But not in front of the children.

Your cousin really is a jerk. And I can't beleive your mom and sisters didn't check on your dd...geeze. Family is a mutha sometimes.

 

[tada1]

That's so sad...Your daughter had a beautiful head of hair before you left, so i am sure she will very soon have her hair back.

I think you should just teach your daughter exactly how to care for her hair. She would obviously do a much better job than your cousin AND she will thank you for it when she gets older

dont let this get to you ok?
just enjoy your time with your family

 

[ajoyfuljoy]

I am so sorry this happened to you. I didn't read the whole thread, so I don't know if someone else suggested this, but maybe you could have one of the ladies from the board do your baby's hair?

It's a thought...if she does a bad job, she runs the risk of being blasted on the board. Besides that, I don't think any of these ladies would treat your baby like that.

 

[Jessica Rabbit]

Wait a minute, you have been gone since October and none of them even thought to visit her?

 

[Allandra]

I am so sad. I am more upset at something I see in this MUCH deeper than her hair. She is the ONLY Black little girl in her class. I take extreme pride in taking care of my children and making sure that they look well-groomed and put together. To think that my poor baby was going to school, cheer-leading practice, just out and about LOOKING TORE UP by the head just KILLS ME!!! Her hair was completely natural. I can look at the little new growth and see that the last perm was maybe about two weeks ago? I asked my cousin WHAT THE HELLLL....she said that Naiomi's hair was:

UNMANAGEABLE!!
HARD TO COMB!!
TOO THICK!!
A PERM WAS THE ONLY THING TO FIX IT!!

I said BULL****! I have been managing it fine for 8 years and YOU CALL THIS FIXED??!! How is what it looks like now fixed! Oh, I get it, it's fixed to look like all the other little Black girls running around with broken off, damaged hair.

I am equally MAD at my own mother and two sisters who live 45 minutes away who never cared to check on their ONLY grand-daughter and niece. That's my biggest dilemna, finding someone who is going to consistently care for her hair.

MAD!!

Yeah, that is definitely a bunch of bull****. Her *** was just too lazy to take her time and follow the detailed instructions that you left. Hell, I would have taken pride in someone asking me to care for their children while they were away. And what in the hell does she mean 'a perm was the only thing to fix it'? Whatever. The only thing that needed fixing was her lazy ***.

I'm sorry for this language, but yes, I am angry at this. It makes absolutely no sense. I hope the next person that takes care of her hair while you are gone will follow your instructions. Whoever the person will be, I would leave them this before and after picture.

Maybe you can get her braid extensions. I don't know anything about braid extensions, but I know there are some lovely ladies here that can give you some great tips on how to take care of braids.

 

[Jessica Rabbit]

Yeah, that is definitely a bunch of bull****. Her *** was just too lazy to take her time and follow the detailed instructions that you left. Hell, I would have taken pride in someone asking me to care for their children while they were away. And what in the hell does she mean 'a perm was the only thing to fix it'? Whatever. The only thing that needed fixing was her lazy ***.

I'm sorry for this language, but yes, I am angry at this. It makes absolutely no sense. I hope the next person that takes care of her hair while you are gone will follow your instructions. Whoever the person will be, I would leave them this before and after picture.

Maybe you can get her braid extensions. I don't know anything about braid extensions, but I know there are some lovely ladies here that can give you some great tips on how to take care of braids.

Lawd she even got Allandra angry. Now you KNOW she was wrong.

Ol unfit *****. You should give her an extra strength tbc relaxer mixed with rio and copa and let it sit on for an hour.

 

[AJamericanDiva]

What state is your baby in Spice?

 

[Jynkx]

you said your mom is 45 mins away..............can you take her there? whatever you do, DO NOT take her back to your cousin......she is incompetant and maybe a little color struck, if her mixed daughter was well taken care of and yours wasnt! how dare her!!!!

i have cut people out of my life for a lot less than that!

 

[Impresaria]

Thank you, Ladies so much for rallying your support. Thank you for the compliments too for little Naiomi, she is my little doll. She is smart as a whip and so sweet and polite. I have never had a problem out of her, so of course, I dote on her something terrible!

Me and the cousin situation....sigh. I don't even know if the girl is daft or what...I left very detailed instructions. I am a product junkie, and believe me when I say that EVERYTHING that could ever be needed for Naiomi's hair was in my bathroom...Boundless Tresses, Mizani Botanifying Shampoo, Mizani Moisturefuse Conditioner, and ORS Carrot Oil.

Simple instructions for Saturday morning:

Wash, condition, detangle (and yes, with the Jilbere shower comb).
Towel dry, part into four sections.
Put generous amount of ORS on each section, put into ponytail with Goody No-Snag ponytail holders, twist hair and tuck.
Let it dry. No heat. No pressing comb.
Put BT on scalp twice a week.
Change pattern of hair daily.
Tie up with scarf at night.

What's so DAMN hard about that???

 

[january noir]

WOW. Again.... I came back in to read more and I am shocked and appalled at the lackadasical, no STANK, attitude your cousin exhibited.

What was your cousin thinking about? Her *** couldn't send your daughter to the hairdresser for a wash and press if it was so unmanageable? I agree with another poster....family is a MUTHA!

It would be a colder day in hell before I spoke to her again (I would be praying for God to forgive me though...)

Please don't tell us that your cousin had a sour look on her face when you demanded answers like you did something wrong. She would have been cussed out, slapped and kicked out my house.

Sorry, this makes me mad and perplexed. How the heck?

 

[Nola Darling]

WTF?? I am so mad for you! By the looks of your daughter's smile in the picture, it seems that she is oblivious to her hair's state...if so I'm glad because I would hate to see a child's self esteem lowered because of a neglectful caregiver.

I hope you will be able to find someone to take care of your baby's hair. She's so cute even with the breakage!

 

[Lucky's Mom]

Thank you, Ladies so much for rallying your support. Thank you for the compliments too for little Naiomi, she is my little doll. She is smart as a whip and so sweet and polite. I have never had a problem out of her, so of course, I dote on her something terrible!

Me and the cousin situation....sigh. I don't even know if the girl is daft or what...I left very detailed instructions. I am a product junkie, and believe me when I say that EVERYTHING that could ever be needed for Naiomi's hair was in my bathroom...Boundless Tresses, Mizani Botanifying Shampoo, Mizani Moisturefuse Conditioner, and ORS Carrot Oil.

Simple instructions for Saturday morning:

Wash, condition, detangle (and yes, with the Jilbere shower comb).
Towel dry, part into four sections.
Put generous amount of ORS on each section, put into ponytail with Goody No-Snag ponytail holders, twist hair and tuck.
Let it dry. No heat. No pressing comb.
Put BT on scalp twice a week.
Change pattern of hair daily.
Tie up with scarf at night.

What's so DAMN hard about that???

I am still in Shock. If you were in in Los Angeles, I would braid that baby's hair for free.....

 

[tiffers]

SpicedTee, what state do you live in? I'm sure there are members here who wouldn't mind taking care of your daughters hair while you're away

 

[lisatamika]

You know I will check on Naomi whenever