Relaxed Hair Thread

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  1. ItsMeLilLucky

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    I get random urges to maybe one day go completely blue or purple or red like I used to. I’d have to stretch a lot longer in the even that I relax whatever new growth comes in.

    But I’m still wary of that since we all know the dangers of relaxing to close to a bleaching application.

    But thank you!
     
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    Awww you think so?

    Thank you!!!
     
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    Absolutely :yep:
     
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    I blow dried it last night, but I just put a silk lined wig cap on and called it a night. [​IMG]
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    @MzSwift gorgeous hair!

    @PlanetCybertron cute pics and love the colors!

    @ItsMeLilLucky glad your relaxer went well and great job blowing! Your hair looks thick!

    As for me, I'm about to go rinse out this Nexxus Keraphix conditioner that I use for protein treatments.

    I HAVE FOUND A NEW PRODUCT STAPLE!!!!!!!

    Redken Extreme Anti-snap leave-in is BAE!!! OMG!!! Why did I wait so long to try it??? I air dry with this stuff and my hair is bouncy and soft. My ends are smooth, no puffiness at all! Woohoo! Love it! Love it! Love it!

    Jury is still out on the Redken Extreme Length Sealer. The brush attachment is awkward. I just squeeze it out and use my hands. I'll report back after another few months to see if there's a difference.
     
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    @sunnieb Thanks love! I flat ironed it to see if I could wear it out but heck naw, to the naw, naw, naw, :lachen:

    I keep hearing about this Redken Anti Snap but I already have 2 bottles of leave ins I need to work through :laugh:
     
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    Man, I'm watching all of these top knot bun videos and now I know why my buns look so puny no matter how long or short my hair is. I didn't know ladies did all of that fluffing! I'm so late. I told y'all I've never had hair so I didn't know all of that went into making a cute high bun. :eek::redface:

    I literally just twist my hair into one bantu knot on top of my head and call it a day. My little monster will not wait for me to do all of that primping. Lol
     
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    Thanks @sunnieb i went to ult.a today and bought the anti-snap, passed over the sealer and the cat and the megamask since it was buy 2 get 1 plus 20% off :drunk: Going to relax the weekend at 7wks post but can’t wait to try this stuff out! The cat especially it says it’s a rinse out reconstructor. The only recons I’ve used is the aphogee one.
     
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    @MzSwift girl where you been???

    We always fluff before bunning! How you think I got those big ol juicylicious buns? Check out the relaxed bunning thread.

    That's also where @divachyk led me to the land of bunning nets. I haven't bunned without those since!
     
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    @Wenbev have you used the anti snap before? I'm airdrying with it now. :)

    If not, let us know how your hair likes it. :yep:
     
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    @sunnieb I forgot there was a relaxed bunning thread :look: I need to check it out lol. I’m torn between taking my ponytail down every day to apply my X21 and leaving it alone for a whole week.
     
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    Oooh, please let us know how the reconstructor feels and works!!

    I've been desperate to replace my beloved Motions CPR (in the bottle, not the jar) since it's been discontinued. :cry3: Joico Kpak reconstructor feels too strong, even when I mix it with the Intense Hydrator. I've been trying to make it work for the past 2 years but it just doesn't make my hair feel as good as the CPR did. :(
     
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    LOL! Sis, I've been "baldheaded" for most of my life! :lachen:I dunno why it never dawned on me to ask how to bun. I was wondering why I couldn't recreate those big luscious buns even with long natural hair. Pulling my ponytail partially through was NOT protecting my ends but that was the only way I knew how to bun. Then I started doing the bantu knot/cinnamon bun but it was puny because of my fine strands. I didn't know that pinning my ponytail under was considered bunning. Lol, SMH

    Sensei Bun Master, I will seek thine wisdom in the Relaxed Bunning thread. :brucelee:
     
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    Wait, wait, wait. Let me slow down. We are not ready for mama to be wearing her hair out over here. LOL
    I think I'm gonna roll with jumbo braid and twist extensions until the EOTY. I might do a drawstring ponytail for a week or two rest but I need to keep my interactions with my hair to a minimum.
     
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    @MzSwift :lachen:

    I forgot you were a Motions CPR fan. I still miss that yellow and purple jar! :(

    I think the Nexxus Keraphix works pretty good for me, but mah Motions (with all the kibbles and bits in it) was the best!
     
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    I'm super late but I saw in my YT feed about some natural hair wax coloring substance and thought about you. I saw a still of a video Naptural did and another girl used blue. Maybe you could??... I'm not trying to feed your bad habits or anything. Noooo. :nono: devil:
     
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    Gotta keep my cowash conditioner supplies up, so I'm trying new flavors of Herbal Essences Bio Renew.

    I used the Argon oil Wednesday love it. Left my hair soft and tangle free. I'll try the Honey/ Vitamin B tonight or tomorrow. :yep:
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    Thank you so much for the very detailed explanation! @MzSwift

    And the picture showing the difference between relaxed and texlaxed was a really good illustration. I’m pretty sure I’ll be texlaxing instead of going straight.

    I really appreciate the tip about the condish and oil before relaxing. One of my biggest worry is going too straight and that tip is going to be really handy. I actually used Motions a lot back when I was relaxed. I’ll have a look at it again

    I’ll be lurking in this thread for more tips :)
     
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    @PlanetCybertron I love the colors! So gorgeous and rich

    Yeah, my mind is made up to relax. I’m traveling most of next month but once I’m back in October I’ll start planning
     
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    I guess I’m doing versions of this until my layers grow in lol
     

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    This is exactly what I’ve been doing! My back grows faster than the sides and front.

    I used to just keep cutting the back but now I just do this instead.
     
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    I have never used it before but kept hearing about it.

    I loooooovvvveeeee it!!!!:heart:
    I relaxed today after leaving work early whilst no one was home. I used the cat and I don’t like that it’s a spray to use in the shower. That seems silly to me. I like that too. Almost better than the aphogee 2min. But I’ll have to try it again to make sure.
    My hair felt/feels soo good after using the anti-snap. And I did actually see less breakage in the sink and comb while combing it thru. I just used that and tressemme heat protectant and let my hair air dry since it’s still like 1000 deg outside. It’s a winner. I’m going to make sure I never run out of it.
     
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    I never tried the CPR but I agree with the joico kpak. Smells delicious but i didn’t like the way my hair felt after.
    I like the redken cat but it annoys me the more I think about it with the spray top. If I’m in the shower with wet hands, how can I apply it properly? But my hair felt just as good if not a little better than the aphogee 2min.
     
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    OK, you and @sunnieb are on my product pushers list. :p (I understand that I asked for the review, but still. LOL)

    So I'm gonna pick this up to see if it'll be my new reconstructor :pray: and use the 10 sec Korean amino acid tx (the warming one) as a post relaxer protein.

    About the spray applicator, yes that would be frustrating. Maybe you can transfer it into a color applicator bottle and use it that way? The korean condish I have comes in a color applicator bottle to apply directly to my hair. I feel like I use less of it vs when a condish comes in a regular bottle or a push top applicator.
     
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    Haha product pushers. I’m usually the one in the back no buying anything but this time, I’m happy I did.

    If you have an ulta close by, I found a coupon on their website for 20% off. It retails for about $20.

    Now, this amino acid thing you’re doing...I want to try. But the link in the post a couple weeks ago doesn’t mention the aminos.
    Is it something you diy or can buy? I like diys.
     
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    LOL!

    So the DIY amino acid DC I used to do was mix Queen Helene cholesterol (my favorite DC base) + Braggs Amino Acid + Baking soda. I also add in a few squirts of any cheapie condish and EOs for scent. Mix everything together first and add the baking soda last. Once you add that, the mixture will turn frothy-like. Be careful because it will expand. Whenever I use that, my hair feels so good and my new growth is much easier to straighten. My whole press is silkier.

    This is the Braggs I use:

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    It smells like soy sauce. I was cautious about using it but during my HHJ, I've found that natural/food grade stuff has been the best for my hair. I don't really measure, :blush2:, but I use about 1-2 TBSP of both the Braggs and the baking soda. ETA: I always DC for at least 20-30 minutes using a plastic grocery bag or plastic cap under the heat of my conditioning cap.

    This is my flat iron on 12 weeks of new growth after using the amino acid DC:




    The Korean product, let me see what I can find on the ingredients. One review said: "Just the four major proteins, the various but necessary peptides, and most importantly, at least 14 to 18 of the 21 to 24 amino acids found in healthy hair. Add a little coconut water and voila! "

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    That stuff has been magic for me. I don't use it on my new growth though because it specifically says it's for "damaged" hair. Some ladies do with no issues. At $34, this little bottle will last me years because it doesn't take much and with the nozzle applicator it doesn't waste much product.
     
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    So after some self-reflection, I think I'm addicted to PSing. Full PSs. I feel more secure in wigs, crochet styles and braid/twist extensions. When I decide to take a "break" from PSing, I like to keep my hair in mini braids/twists with no extensions. That's the only way I wear my hair "loose."

    When DH and I started dating, I stopped PSing. I texlaxed my hair and started wearing it loose, for real. I did lots of braidouts, almost daily, and I would straighten more often (like 5 0r 6 times a year). I only put in braid extensions for our vacations or mini braids once or twice a year. I lost a lot of length when I did that. I also didn't retain much of my growth.

    Looking back, I think the real problem is that I was over manipulating my hair while not doing anything to counter that. I wasn't DCing, even though I was M&Sing every night before wrapping it up. Braiding it up every night and unbraiding every morning was too much manipulation. I also was sleeping in my wig cap, a satin mens skull cap. I think that wasn't effective even though I was sleeping on a satin pillowcase.

    My plan now is to try out wearing more low-manipulation styles vs no-manipulation styles. Only using full PSing when the weather is extremely cold. I'm thinking braided ponytails and buns that I keep in for 3-7 days at a time before redoing. Or rocking one top knot/bantu knot and letting it down every now and then so DH can also enjoy my hair. I wanted to do updos and bun styles but I'm not too confident in the daily manipulation. ETA: I may do some wet/damp bunning and drawstring ponytails as well.

    I'm also going to try to do weekly or biweekly (at least) DCing. I may end up trying DCing overnight but I'm not always able to rinse it out the next day.

    I will also keep baggying at night.

    Maybe I'll do these types of styles for 8 weeks and then full PS for 8 weeks.

    I'll start this after my next relaxer in a few weeks. Right now I'm braided under a wig and I'm loving being lazy. But I'm not enjoying the hair I've grown, retained and not guaranteed to have in the future. :(

    Sorry for my novels guys, I'm a SAHM with a special needs toddler. LOL!
     
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