Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread
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ChristmasCarol
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Welcome back, DDT - You can do it!
BlackDiamond21
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Trying again... -
ADVICE PLS -
I am some weeks post relaxer and I cannot help but want to know what my natural texture is . I remember a little bit about it from when I was a little girl and in my mind I love it.
The more I read, the more I think my natural texture is 3c/4a/b-ish. I SO want to know right now but I was told to wait until I had at least an inch before trying to figure it out .
Part of me who is insecure doesn't want to BC my hair because 1.)when I had pixie hair I was at least 10-15lbs lighter and 2.) if my relationship goes the way I hope, I don't want to get married with short hair and the possibility of marriage is at least 3 years off. I know hair can grow a lot in that time frame, but still... OY!
So what did you ladies do to stop obsessing over your natural curls and kinks?
ADVICE PLS -
I am some weeks post relaxer and I cannot help but want to know what my natural texture is . I remember a little bit about it from when I was a little girl and in my mind I love it.
The more I read, the more I think my natural texture is 3c/4a/b-ish. I SO want to know right now but I was told to wait until I had at least an inch before trying to figure it out .
Part of me who is insecure doesn't want to BC my hair because 1.)when I had pixie hair I was at least 10-15lbs lighter and 2.) if my relationship goes the way I hope, I don't want to get married with short hair and the possibility of marriage is at least 3 years off. I know hair can grow a lot in that time frame, but still... OY!
So what did you ladies do to stop obsessing over your natural curls and kinks?
chrisanddonniesmommy
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^I guess I my obsession loosened as my transitioning pressed on. While I still think about my curls/kinks, I'm busy with my job and my family duties. So, at least, I have other reasons to not obsess (I'm too busy, lol). I still get HIH syndrome and I have to force myself to stop, though. The obsession isn't as bad as it was when I began my transition.
MiWay
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Checking in! I'm 59 weeks and 2 days post relaxer! I still can't believe I have made it this far. Part of me is ready to BC, but part of me wants more length. I haven't had a trim since April (I think), so it's probably about that time. I am going to try and get another 2 inches cut off and I should be minutes from being natural by then.
I have been maintaining by flatironing every 7-10 days. Instead of using Sabino for my flatironing, I used Aphogee Keratin and Green Tea Restructurizer this time, and I had some breakage and my hair doesn't feel as nice. I'm not sure why this happened, but I won't be doing that again. I'm sick of wearing straight styles now. Any good styles (not buns) for someone this far along in their transition? My hair is APL.
I have been maintaining by flatironing every 7-10 days. Instead of using Sabino for my flatironing, I used Aphogee Keratin and Green Tea Restructurizer this time, and I had some breakage and my hair doesn't feel as nice. I'm not sure why this happened, but I won't be doing that again. I'm sick of wearing straight styles now. Any good styles (not buns) for someone this far along in their transition? My hair is APL.
HeChangedMyName
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BlackDiamond21
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I didn't mean to imply I have no life. I obsess when I am actually doing my hair. Whether it is moisturizing it or styling it, whatever. I just want to HURRY UP and grow so I can see what I got! lol So maybe time will lessen this feeling.
tricie
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Hi, ladies,
Checking in at 1 year and 5 months post!
! I can't believe it's been that long!
Currently, my hair (at the longest part in the back) is about 1 1/2" to 2" away from APL, and the sides are about SL; the shortest area is in the crown. I took out my micros in August to give it a break (I'm in the Braid Challenge, so a break is allowed
), and am currently wearing either Flexi-rod sets, twistouts, or (mostly) wet bunning with a phony pony. I have been slowly trimming my relaxed ends, and I have about 3" to 4" left. I haven't decided whether or not I'm gonna trim this time with the braids out because my relaxed ends actually look ok.
This break has allowed me to wet bun, baggy (whole head), and apply conditioning treatments (like henna), so it's going well. I think I'm gonna henna this weekend since it's a 3 day weekend.
I haven't straightened my hair since my transition, and other than sitting under the dryer every now and then, I haven't used any direct heat, which is new for me since in my relaxed days, I Chi ironed daily! I'm almost afraid to get it straightened, but I would like to eventually for a true length check.
I'll probably get braided up again in time for the holidays for convenience.
Stay encouraged, ladies; if I can hang on as long as I have, you can do it, too!
Checking in at 1 year and 5 months post!
! I can't believe it's been that long! Currently, my hair (at the longest part in the back) is about 1 1/2" to 2" away from APL, and the sides are about SL; the shortest area is in the crown. I took out my micros in August to give it a break (I'm in the Braid Challenge, so a break is allowed
), and am currently wearing either Flexi-rod sets, twistouts, or (mostly) wet bunning with a phony pony. I have been slowly trimming my relaxed ends, and I have about 3" to 4" left. I haven't decided whether or not I'm gonna trim this time with the braids out because my relaxed ends actually look ok. This break has allowed me to wet bun, baggy (whole head), and apply conditioning treatments (like henna), so it's going well. I think I'm gonna henna this weekend since it's a 3 day weekend.
I haven't straightened my hair since my transition, and other than sitting under the dryer every now and then, I haven't used any direct heat, which is new for me since in my relaxed days, I Chi ironed daily! I'm almost afraid to get it straightened, but I would like to eventually for a true length check.I'll probably get braided up again in time for the holidays for convenience.
Stay encouraged, ladies; if I can hang on as long as I have, you can do it, too!
Melissa-jane
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Thanks ladies, thinking about transitioning again.... I usually bc but I hate short hair and I never want to be unable to bun again, so it would be the long haul technique. I had beUtiful natural hair last year up until Christmas and then I dyed it....... Big mistake had to relax it just to stop the persistent tangles. However I want to try again and take it one day at a time , if it takes five years it takes five years, let's see.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
Have you tried braid outs or twist outs? I wish I were in your shoes so many weeks post relaxer!
newbeginnings2010
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Grrrrr...
My hair is driving me NUTS! I can't do braids or any style that exposes my scalp to the elements (or anything else) because it gets sooooo itchy, and leaving it in a bun makes wash day a headache because of the amount of new growth. I have 3 inches of new growth in some places! I just want to take fists full of my hair and rip it out! I want to scream!
*sings to my hair* "It's just one of them daaaaayyyys that a girl goes through. When I'm angry insiiiiiide, I don't wanna take it out on you..."
Sorry ladies. I'm going through junk food/fast food withdrawals.
My hair is driving me NUTS! I can't do braids or any style that exposes my scalp to the elements (or anything else) because it gets sooooo itchy, and leaving it in a bun makes wash day a headache because of the amount of new growth. I have 3 inches of new growth in some places! I just want to take fists full of my hair and rip it out! I want to scream!*sings to my hair* "It's just one of them daaaaayyyys that a girl goes through. When I'm angry insiiiiiide, I don't wanna take it out on you..."
Sorry ladies. I'm going through junk food/fast food withdrawals.
Im 6 months posts. Im hoping that I will make it to at least 24 months post before Im stuck with all my natural hair. I love my natural hair but Im not ready to deal with all of it just yet. I want enough length to place it in a comfortable ponytail while curly before Im fully natural. I still want the option of being lazy to be available.
Right now Im just trying to find ways of creating ease with my hair. I find that only two things work so far, which are BKT and keeping my hair straight. With a BKT my new growth doesn't seem to shrink up or get tangled while my hair is dry. I think this will definitely be a staple. Also, keeping my non bkted hair straight just makes doing my hair so much easier. My hair never feels dry and I can easily comb out shed hair prior to shampooing. All I do now days is wrap my hair during the week and cleanse and style my hair on the weekends. Dont think that I haven't tried other alternatives. No heat curled styles, bunning, low heat and even the highly acclaimed Pink Skate's tension method just dont work for me right now.
What Im doing now will transfer over when Im natural. I do plan to wear my natural hair straight quite often. In fact, I wont be wearing any style in which my natural hair is not stretched. There will be braid outs, twist outs, twist/braid n curls, flexi rod sets, bantu knots and whatever other stretched style are out there. I want to prevent and avoid ssks as much as possible. I've seen my natural hair 3 times now-- once when I was little and the other two in the past 3 years. So Im in no hurry to see it in its fully glory.
I really like what Im doing now. With my hair woes out of the way, I can now focus on other things.
Right now Im just trying to find ways of creating ease with my hair. I find that only two things work so far, which are BKT and keeping my hair straight. With a BKT my new growth doesn't seem to shrink up or get tangled while my hair is dry. I think this will definitely be a staple. Also, keeping my non bkted hair straight just makes doing my hair so much easier. My hair never feels dry and I can easily comb out shed hair prior to shampooing. All I do now days is wrap my hair during the week and cleanse and style my hair on the weekends. Dont think that I haven't tried other alternatives. No heat curled styles, bunning, low heat and even the highly acclaimed Pink Skate's tension method just dont work for me right now.
What Im doing now will transfer over when Im natural. I do plan to wear my natural hair straight quite often. In fact, I wont be wearing any style in which my natural hair is not stretched. There will be braid outs, twist outs, twist/braid n curls, flexi rod sets, bantu knots and whatever other stretched style are out there. I want to prevent and avoid ssks as much as possible. I've seen my natural hair 3 times now-- once when I was little and the other two in the past 3 years. So Im in no hurry to see it in its fully glory.
I really like what Im doing now. With my hair woes out of the way, I can now focus on other things.
indarican
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I have had my hair in a donut bun with the hump in the front for about a week now, it was a good protective style, but i feel like my inner new growth is not getting anytype of moisture. I just washed it this morning and let it dry a little. Hopefully i will get to get a style that allows me to access the center of my head. Sigh.... so difficult.
newbeginnings2010
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Ladies, I've come to say goodbye to this thread...I don't think I'm ready for transitioning. I will be relaxing (or maybe heat training), in November. I will miss you all! 
I will continue with my no heat and hiding my hair, so if you're in those threads, I will see you in that neck of the woods!
I will continue with my no heat and hiding my hair, so if you're in those threads, I will see you in that neck of the woods!
HeChangedMyName
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New beginnings, I promise you I am not following you.
I was coming in here to bid you all a farewell too.
I plan to relax. I'm not sure when, but I'm not in any particular rush to relax or not. I just know that for me and my hair, I'll fare much better continuing to relax and maintain healthy hair.
I was coming in here to bid you all a farewell too.
I plan to relax. I'm not sure when, but I'm not in any particular rush to relax or not. I just know that for me and my hair, I'll fare much better continuing to relax and maintain healthy hair.
newbeginnings2010
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I don't believe you! Just kidding!
I decided November because that's when I'm going to see my family again. I want to wear my hair down in December for the holidays.
Bun Mistress
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Just saw my siggy, I'm 19 months post!
LaFemmeNaturelle
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noooooo don't leave us! Jk but how much have you thought about this? Last night you seemed really frustrated that you haven't found a good simple routine or remedied your itchy scalp. Maybe I can help? I just don't want you to give in out of frustration!Ladies, I've come to say goodbye to this thread...I don't think I'm ready for transitioning. I will be relaxing (or maybe heat training), in November. I will miss you all!
I will continue with my no heat and hiding my hair, so if you're in those threads, I will see you in that neck of the woods!
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LaFemmeNaturelle
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I've gone back to bunning. I think I will bun for the rest of the year. I need to retain these 2 inches in the next 4 months! I've also gone back to co-washing 3 times a week. Loving it so far!
miss cosmic
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14 weeks now.
cant wait to say things like '2 years post relaxer'
cant wait to say things like '2 years post relaxer'
LaFemmeNaturelle
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This thread sure has been dead lately! What's going on ladies? How's the hair? And miss comic you'll be saying that before you know it. I used to feel that way too and now I'll be saying that I'm 10 months post in a couple of weeks. This time has gone by so fast.
fattyfatfat
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this is week 26 of my transitioning without a BC.
Bun Mistress
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I have been feeling blah lately Time to up my bunning game. Going to continue to blow dry thur the winter. FI peeps if you re considering glycering but you use heat try universal styling cream by Aveda. First heard of it years ago from Pinkskates. I started using it a few months ago. Love it!
Bun Mistress
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I've decided recently to transition for 18-24 months. I hope that my NG will be at least SL by then...HOPEFULLY!
You will be, just be patient
Glamorous_chic
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i haven't really posted in this thread except once i think. i dont plan on bc anytime soon, atleast not until my natural hair is apl, so who knows, maybe another 2-3 years. lol. ive been soo frustrated with my hair lately. i decided to braid it up. as of now, the plan is to keep braids in for 6 weeks, deep condition/shampoo weekly for 2 weeks, and continue this cycle until feb. by then im hoping to see some progress.
indarican
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Ladies i definetly need some guidance and some support. I recently co washed my hair with a vo5 conditioner, i rinsed it out but not the best then i wet bunned. For the past two days my hair has been falling out, it feels like when you burn your hair to get rid of it (some people burn thier hair instead of throwing it in the garbage) I dont know what to do, and to top it off my hair is so matted i cant even finger comb it. I dont know what to do. I dont think i have ever seen my hair fall out like this or feel this bad ever. I tried to do a deep conditioner and it help a little but not much. Im scared if i do a protien that my hair will become more rough and just pop off more than it has in the past 2 days. Please help!!!!
growingbrown
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6 months post TOODAYYY!!!
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