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Relaxed Hair Thread

FadingDelilah

Well-Known Member
Okay so today on a whim I decided I was going to try to m&s and detangle, and my hair was sooo knotty as if it is still natural. I was really about to shave my head. So discouraging. I'm hoping it just from going so long without doing it. Maybe it'll get better with time and more conditioning.
 

Prisangela

Well-Known Member
Okay so today on a whim I decided I was going to try to m&s and detangle, and my hair was sooo knotty as if it is still natural. I was really about to shave my head. So discouraging. I'm hoping it just from going so long without doing it. Maybe it'll get better with time and more conditioning.
it will. Take a breath and start to section and detangle section by section, with whatever product you have. Then moisturize and seal. Remember you'll need to M/S every couple days until your next wash day. Make sure on your wash day to detangle or you'll be doing this dance everytime.
 

ItsMeLilLucky

Aka Giveme D’Monee
Whew, my hair got THICK. Now I expected some parts of my hair to be wonky because they got wet, but parts of my hair that didn’t get wet acting like they don’t have any sense :look: :laugh: I mean acting like they’re natural af. Imma try to thug it out as long as I possibly can, however, I see that I might need to stick to strict once a quarter relaxer schedule and/or reducing the amount of oil in my relaxer to just 1 tablespoon.

Btw, where the heck is @sunnieb
I feel like we’re missing a lot of people.
*sings* Baby come back, you can blame it all on me, I was wrong and I just can’t live without you.
 

GraceandJoy

Enjoying My Life
You're right. I will work on moisture before I do protein. I did the acv before my last time neutralizing. I am starting to think it's that isoplus too. It smells like clay under the fragrance and I can't stand it. I just got it cause it was the cheapest color coded neutralizer I could find on Amazon. Im at a loss because after two relaxers with very little oil added my hair is still curly!!!!! I feel like just banishing my hair to an eternal buzzcut. Ughhhh
Hello, I'm texlaxed (I use Revlon mild professional strength) and at one point in my life, I used Isoplus, on myself and others until I realized how it stripped my hair and theirs. When I switched to another neutralizer (Proclaim w/Argan oil), it was night and day. At the time, I had no idea Isoplus was causing my already dry, highly porous hair to be even drier.
 

11228

Well-Known Member
I have come to realize that my hair LOVES protein. My hair feels like silk when I use Nexxus' Emergencee followed by a moisturizing deep condish.

I have started co-washing every other day with Aphogee 2 Minutes and my hair loves it.

The only hick in my new found perfect reg. is that Nexxus Emergencee seem to have disappeared off the market :cry3:
 

Wenbev

Well-Known Member
I have come to realize that my hair LOVES protein. My hair feels like silk when I use Nexxus' Emergencee followed by a moisturizing deep condish.

I have started co-washing every other day with Aphogee 2 Minutes and my hair loves it.

The only hick in my new found perfect reg. is that Nexxus Emergencee seem to have disappeared off the market :cry3:
how do you style your hair now with the frequent co-washing? I have no idea what to do with my hair if I'm not flat ironing it.
I see the shampoo and conditioner at ulta all the time.
 

11228

Well-Known Member
how do you style your hair now with the frequent co-washing? I have no idea what to do with my hair if I'm not flat ironing it.
I see the shampoo and conditioner at ulta all the time.
I mean the Emergencee treatment that comes in a small bottle, not the condish/shampoo. I haven't tried those.

After every ash I air dry, apply jojoba oil and serum and put it up. I almost always clip the pony so there is no tail.

In the mornings, I just spray some liquid leave-in and brush the front for that sleek look and rescarve it while I go through my morning routine.
 

KhandiB

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Yeah. honestly, I just needed a relaxer.

I relaxed my hair this weekend with ORS No Lye and its been smooth sailing ever since.

I self relaxed because when I was looking around, it was gonna cost me around $200 to get my hair done and I was NOT interested in paying that, ahah!

I did a good job, I also cut my hair because I hadn't had a trim since July of last year.

It turned out well.

What I also did was prior to relaxing , I used Loreal's Ever Care sulfate free shampoo and conditioner and did a Aphogee 2 minute reconstuctor and it really helped out alot.

So needless to say, I will not be stretching that long ever again. lol.

Especially since, when I am post 8 weeks, I tend to bun a lot, and boy can you tell, the breakage was real. I will post pics.

Following up on what @ItsMeLilLucky said, I was wondering if maybe you also used a lot of cones, the non-water soluble ones? It sounds to me like there may be buildup blocking any moisture from getting into your strands. And if that's the case, then any protein you try to use will also be blocked. When my hair is just not responding to things, that's my sign that I need to clarify.

Even if you use sulfate poo often, sometimes we just have to clarify to wash the slate clean and then put nutrients back into it. So maybe getting your hair to a "base level" by clarifying then doing a mild protein tx followed by a moisturizing DC. Let it air dry without any product and then assess your hair. It'll be easier to tell if it's brittle from protein overload or dryness.

IA w you that you could save a lot of time, money and disappointment by doing your own relaxers SPECIFICALLY because the salon visits have not been up to par.
 
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MzSwift

Texlaxed, loccing again
My hair is too thick, it feels kinda like I’m natural :crybaby:
I’m not gonna be able to do any kind of stretch at this point :lachen:

I might have to introduce some heat at this point.
I've seen lots of ladies retain well with weekly wash, DC and heat style. I think as long as you don't do any touchup heat, you should be fine. Honestly, I'm tempted to start doing the same thing once things slow down for me over here.
 

ItsMeLilLucky

Aka Giveme D’Monee
I've seen lots of ladies retain well with weekly wash, DC and heat style. I think as long as you don't do any touchup heat, you should be fine. Honestly, I'm tempted to start doing the same thing once things slow down for me over here.
I’m definitely not gonna do any touch up heat. The way my laziness is set up, I barely wanna blowdry and flat iron :lachen:
I need to do something though, cause honey this is NOT it lol
 

Wenbev

Well-Known Member
I mean the Emergencee treatment that comes in a small bottle, not the condish/shampoo. I haven't tried those.

After every ash I air dry, apply jojoba oil and serum and put it up. I almost always clip the pony so there is no tail.

In the mornings, I just spray some liquid leave-in and brush the front for that sleek look and rescarve it while I go through my morning routine.
Got it! Now you’re going to make me go look for it. :) thanks for your routine I never know what to do bc everything I’ve done in the past seems like more manipulation than if I just flat ironed and wrapped at night. I’m going to give that a try.
 

MzSwift

Texlaxed, loccing again
My twist extensions will have been in 6 weeks tomorrow. I'm loving this lazy hair! The best part about it is that the added hair doesn't require any extra work. Literally wake up, spray and go.

Probably gonna do lazy girl crochet next to give my hair a rest from tension. Not looking forward to having to style my hair everyday. Maybe I'll make them crochet twists for that reason alone.

I'll probably be back to extension twists sometime again this year. I've got so many around the house projects to do that I don't wanna have to fuss with my hair.
 

FadingDelilah

Well-Known Member
My hair has gotten to a point where it's getting moisturized but it is just sooooo weak it comes out in clumps, especially in the nape area. The nape is the most fine. I was shocked. One thing my hair never was, despite it all, was weak. I'm not really upset to lose so much hair because I'm kind of over my hair - permanently - as I'm about to shave it all off, and I know it's really a matter of needing protein. Hard protein even, if it doesn't stop.

The tangles are soooo bad (worse than when I was natural because... idk why. It might be that its so tangled from that isoplus, at least I'm hoping that's what caused the dreaded up pieces all throughout,and not my curls just happening to behave that way now). It's hard because I have very little time or energy to do my hair and when every step takes hours... you do the math. I still don't know the nature of my new texture really, but I do know that I'm going to transition to fully straight because I don't think half textured is working for me. My hair is just too spongy. By nature it'll always shrink and tangle once dry if I don't go fully straight, and I have to decrease the tangling by any means necessary. I definitely will need regular protein then.

My hair is so uneven and damaged from detangling and hairloss that I just wanna shave it and wear wigs and perm my new growth every few months to transition to healthy, even fully relaxed hair. It would work for me because I can't reach a hair braider right now. I need to get my (possibly alopecia related) scalp issues worked out too, so shorter hair would help me apply medicine more easily too if need be.
 
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