Discussion in 'Hair Care Tips & Product Review Discussion' started by Chicoro, Dec 28, 2018.
How I feel when I use my Shea Coffee Butter!
Don't give up hope on your hair or yourself!
Tangles will eat away and destroy any length gains you have. I may have posted this before but I can't remember.
For most of my life, this was my reality. My hair was constantly tangled
and matted. My poor hair and scalp suffered for so long. This was after
I chopped off my hair, by accident. The length, texture and life changes
made my hair less responsive to my prior hair administrations. It just wasn't
gaining length or 'acting' like it used to do.
Thank you Queen Shea, I love you! It took me 4 years after that messed up
by accident chop, to finally find Queen Shea. My hair is 3x longer than the
first picture, and it's not even heat straightened! I've NEVER had hair this
easy to manage nor this LONG before in my life !
It definitely pays to revisit products and/or techniques that haven't worked in the past, just in case....
Congratulations @Chicoro on such an amazing feat! To have hair 3 times!!! longer than it was, AND easier to manage. Shea sure is glorious
My mother has read this thread through and through and is convincing me to use shea butter. She gave me a little of her 3cayg shea butter which felt amazing on my skin! I put it on the dermatitis on my hands and the area feels smoother. I ordered an Ayurveda oil and I'm getting a whipped shea butter sample along with it. I can't wait to wash my hair and try my goodies this Friday! My question --- does the shea butter pair well with gel? When I wash my hair I always do a two strand twist out and let it last me for the week. I plan to use the shea on my damp hair and coat it well and then apply a gel/twisting product on top.
Also, do you guys get any buildup from usage?
I like to do water + gel + Shea Butter in that order.
Shea butter seems to play better with gel when it's whipped
If I wash 1x per week, I may re-braid on day 3 or 4. That's when I wet my braids. The rinse gives me a 'fresh start' with less build-up.
Yes, it can build up depending upon the ingredients. Most of us prefer to make our own and our own blends tend not have build-up.
Queen Shea butter doesn't like petroleum jelly or paraffin. So you, can't use it with those products, most of the time. She leaves a horrible, dull, coated cast on the hair to let you know you doing your hair wrong!
Let us know how it goes for you!
Thank you!!!!!! Yes, Shea is so very glorious. I love her. It goes to show that if you have the right stuff and process, you can have manageable, long afro-textured hair. My hair was 'too much' to handle when it was 3x shorter, than it is today! Who would have thought?!
Thank you !!!
I regularly use shea butter with diluted Kinky Curly in the way you describe, without issue. I changed my gel selection this week (still diluted though) and still no issues of build-up or flaking.
So shiny and luscious!
Also...where’d you get that TMNT shirt?
I’m a huge comic book nerd.
Thanks! I bought the shirt second hand so I'm not sure where it came from.
I think my husband’s curiosity was over the top. He asked me to give his hair a treatment like I do mine 2x a week. I’m not really sure how his hair fairs with products meant for my hair type, but it seemed to respond really well, I just keep the product away from his scalp since he has SD.
I think it’s rather important to share cultural norms, if you’re in a relationship of differing ethnicities. For about a year, once a week, my husband holds still while I braid up his hair. He absolutely loves it, and since he’s not really on board with a solid routine (idk if that’s a guy thing, but he does nothing to his hair, and it still just sprouts), but I explain to him how braiding is a very good way to protect his hair.
So last week, guess what?
He asked me to put some of my Shea Butter in his hair. I had such a blast doing that, and his hair smoothed down unbelievably quick. He doesn’t care for leave-ins, but I let his hair get halfway dry after washing it, and Shea’d It down just to lock in the moisture.
Yall. Look at this:
His hair has a shine going on, and it deepened that sandy brown/blonde color he naturally has.
I show him this picture, and he’s like, “Wow. My hair looks amazing!”
Queen Shea has proven that she dominates on any head of hair.
His hair looks really good! And the "no routine yet thriving hair" is soooo a guy thing lol. So many of the guys on Reddit for example barely touch their hair and don't use much product if any outside of shampoo yet their hair looks amazing.
I told him I was gonna be very salty if his hair gets longer than mine. With all the brainstorming I do to keep my hair in good condition, you’d think I was laying down blueprints on some rocket science project. Meanwhile he’s over here doing absolutely nothing with already Waist Length hair.
But he always explains how he wishes he had just a tiny bit of volume. Just a little puff of it lol.
They'd love him on /r/fierceflow.
@PlanetCybertron His hair is so luscious Man, that bugs me that guys are out here with perfectly curled eye lashes and nice hair and they DO NOTHING to it.
Don't forget to mention perfect, flawless, make-up free skin, too.
The AUDACITY of them
Start off with a small amount first. Scrape your finger nail across the top of the butter, emulsify it in your hand then apply that small amount to your whole head. I'm super excited for your new Shea journey!
Thank you !!
I'm excited to try my goodies
Congrats on finding a good mix that works great for you!! Your hair looks super shiny and defined!
Have you tried Aloe Vera Gel? & it doesn’t build-up and flake like gel but definitely lays it down with less reversion than our beloved Shea. I use it for my edges and on my daughters sentitive scalp and edges.
Yes, I used Trader Joes AVJ for a year as well as a brand from Walmart that was alcohol free. I liked the TJ's brand better, but it still gave me stiff hair that turned an ashy gray after 5 or 6 days. I know that's not a huge problem for most as they would probably rinse or just re-wash around that time but I cant be fooling with my hair that often. Shea alone doesnt lay my hair down as well as gel....but Roller Sets + Shea and a quick hit of my flat iron on low around my hairline gives me the look (and feel) I desire that will last from one wash day to the next. Thank you for your suggestion though!!!! @MizzBFly
Omg yes, he would have a grand ol’ Time. He’s been watching braid tutorials and still can’t get it. I feel the struggle. I’m STILL struggling to master simple cornrows. I can flat twist till my hearts content, but cornrow? Does not compute lol. Idk if it’s a left handed thing, but in the videos/tutorials I watch, everything looks flip flopped.
Oooooooo don’t even get me started honey!
He sleeps on his regular pillow case (cotton....GASP!)
He tried a bonnet, but the next morning it was laying across the room haha!
I watched him try to brush through his hair one morning. *shivers*. He just goes straight down. I’m like, “ Do it gentlyyyyy. Gent-lyyyyyyy” lol.
I have yet to see him use conditioner. Shampoo. That’s it.
I remember running out of conditioner one day, and I about threw a fit until I reached a nearby walgreens or Walmart.
I’m just hoping he doesn’t get flat iron happy one day. I straightened it for our anniversary and I think I awoken something. He just swooshed his hair for the rest of the night lol.
Do any of your products you now use have a combination of:
dimethicone and behentrimonium chloride,
or dimethicone and behentrimonium methosulfate
I would think this would be in a conditioner or a leave in product, more specifically.
His hair is truly beautiful. What does it look like without Shea butter?
It seems I photographed my right side, but I have more consistent measurements for my left side. So the stats below are for mostly my left side.
Here are the length statistics:
Bantu knot #2 continues to lose length. Either I measured it incorrectly initially, or some of my practices are adversely impacting that particular braid. I think this braid on both my right and left sides experience the most friction from my clothes as it experiences the most movement and the most manipulation. I started baggy-ing in late September 2018, but that didn't stop the breakage. I did notice I was getting more tangles at the very ends of my braids. I don't get tangles there anymore. Maybe it can recover in December 2019. This hair also could be my most fragile area. It is near the hairline so that would make sense.
Some braids gain 1/2 inch in bulk length, and some gain 1 inch in the bulk length. My braids in the crown seems to grow the fastest. That would be Bantu #3. I currently have some hairs at 27 inches there right now.
Confusion: On average, the bulk of my braids increase in length by 1/2 inch per year! So here's my EXTREME confusion, if hair is supposed to gain an inch of length every 2 months, for a possible total of 6 inches per year, why are my braids increasing in length by 1/2 inch for the entire year? Yet, I have gone from above waist length in 2014 to tailbone in 2018. The distance between those two markers on my body are more than 2.5 inches (4x .5 inches).
Caveat: If I were to press my hair straight and compare the length it is today to the length it was in 2014, there would be a difference of several inches measuring at least 6 to 8 inches longer, with most of that length being gained since 2016. Strange.
What I do know: That if a section of hair gets long, and even if it breaks off in length, it's as if the hair has passed a barrier, and it is sure to grow back to that length. It's as if the hair has 'memory' about how long it got. If treated right, it seems to get back to that length it once was. Thus, take heart if your hair has broken off. It will very likely grow back. Breakage is not the same as falling out. If your hair is shorter due to other reasons besides breakage and cutting, I don't think the same applies.
I'm pretty sure that none of my products have cones in them (shampoo/conditioner/protein treatment) and I make my own leave-in which does not have any.
What are you thinking?