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Single Christian Women's Support - THE REMIX!

mscurly

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Another thing to do is to review yourself especially your childhood and teens see if you may be repeating an unhealthy patten or have some negative recording playing in your head that you subconsciously believe that is attracting these unavailable men. You’ll have to pay close attention to your thoughts and what you say. Like how some people make a little mistake like wrong spelling and then out loud call themselves stupid, that’s a negative track already playing in their head and they are cursing themselves with it lol the time and it came from someone or something.
Here’s some more: I’m not good enough I’m not worthy I’m just this or that a handsome Godly Christian man who will be a good provider husband won’t want me once he gets to know the real me, etc... really anything that’s playing in your head doesn’t mater where it came from the fact that it stuck in your head is all you need to know for now. You can get to the root later sometimes you may never remember it or know how it got stuck in your head so ask the HS to help you by revealing the truth so you can uproot the cause. you have to disagree with it and
cast it down in Jesus name.
HTH
That’s a great point did you pray for dicernment or clarity or confirmation of you should date a guy or not? TIA
Amen thank you Jesus! Yes I have prayed about that and you made some good valid points about attracting unavailable men because this had been a repeated pattern in my life.

One thing HS keeps saying to me is just to listen to the voice of God and be obedient. God has always sent me warning signs or let me know that a man wasn't it for me. Unfortunately I have not always listened and I know thats been to my downfall. Now I'm praying harder than ever for God to help me in the spirit of obedience and listening when he says no.

It was also a lack of trust that God would actually come through for me and give me a husband that is faithful to me. I'm constantly working on my faith because I recognize its hard for me to believe certain things. I know its fear and not something God gave me. I'm a work in progress because like you said these negative thoughts came from somewhere. I honestly don't even know. But I rebuke it in Jesus name. For I will receive all the blessing The Lord has for me including a husband!

I will know when a man is the one God has for me because HS will tell. He always has. I just need to listen.
 

Lucia

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Amen thank you Jesus! Yes I have prayed about that and you made some good valid points about attracting unavailable men because this had been a repeated pattern in my life.

One thing HS keeps saying to me is just to listen to the voice of God and be obedient. God has always sent me warning signs or let me know that a man wasn't it for me. Unfortunately I have not always listened and I know thats been to my downfall. Now I'm praying harder than ever for God to help me in the spirit of obedience and listening when he says no.

It was also a lack of trust that God would actually come through for me and give me a husband that is faithful to me. I'm constantly working on my faith because I recognize its hard for me to believe certain things. I know its fear and not something God gave me. I'm a work in progress because like you said these negative thoughts came from somewhere. I honestly don't even know. But I rebuke it in Jesus name. For I will receive all the blessing The Lord has for me including a husband!

I will know when a man is the one God has for me because HS will tell. He always has. I just need to listen.
Amen !
 

Lucia

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Thank God for closed doors


Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
 

Maracujá

November 2020 --> 14 years natural!!!



Really liked these series, it sounded so in tune with what I believe about God, Scripture, womanhood and romantic relationships. But of course, as with everything, use discernment.
 

Lucia

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Sometimes there’s a spiritual reason for prolonged singleness
The Mystery behind generational curses series
Generational spirits series
 
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Lucia

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Just need to vent: I’m so sick of unavailable men being interested and as soon as they’re free they’re not interested anymore or they don’t see me at all like I’m not on their radar for single datable or marriageable women. Like let’s say “Sharon” is divorced or Suzy has an OOW kid but their getting approached and getting dates. And literally I went to a prof networking event and a nice looking young man literally walked over me to go run after some other woman.
Look this isn’t jealousy I’ve checked that at the door it’s just brutally honest observations I’ve been doing because I’ve been working on myself in all areas and checking myself too and it’s not easy.
These video series have helped me understand it’s not physical or this world there’s more to this battle. I mean I’m doing everything I’m supposed to be doing and more then what’s really blocking me from producing good fruit heck any fruit in this are of my life, that’s the question that the HS is giving me answers to.
 
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Lucia

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Books from video and books I suggest.
Be free from Marine spouses - Zita Grant
short easy quick read gives explanations in basic stuff

Deliverance from covenants Rev James Solomon


Overthrowing Evil Altars -Uzu Ndekwu


Prayers that rout Demons- John Ekhart

Deliverance Prayers
 
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Maracujá

November 2020 --> 14 years natural!!!
Just need to vent: I’m so sick of unavailable men being interested and as soon as they’re free they’re not interested anymore. The video series app I’ve helped me understand it’s not physical or this world there’s more to this battle. I mean kid I’m doing everything I’m supposed to be doing and more then what’s really blocking me from producing good fruit heck any fruit in this are of my life, that’s the question that the HD is giving me answers to.
Basically, had similar thoughts recently. It's in the Bible by the way and my pastor often speaks about this: we wrestle not in the flesh. And also: not by might, not by our own power, but by His spirit.

I'm struggling to give this area to God, but it's not simple. Trying to really come to terms with the fact that, it may never happen for me, no matter how much it hurts. The other day I was thinking about how every.single.dude I've dated or shown interest in...simply rejects me, sometimes in a very verbally abusive manner too. It made me so sad. My female cousins and sisters are going through the same thing: no man and if they have a man...it's loveless and lifeless.

Started reading about fatherless daughters and this goes really deep. This is why we call God 'Father'...so many ladies are struggling in this area. So many fatherless daughters, absent fathers.
 

Lucia

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Basically, had similar thoughts recently. It's in the Bible by the way and my pastor often speaks about this: we wrestle not in the flesh. And also: not by might, not by our own power, but by His spirit.

I'm struggling to give this area to God, but it's not simple. Trying to really come to terms with the fact that, it may never happen for me, no matter how much it hurts. The other day I was thinking about how every.single.dude I've dated or shown interest in...simply rejects me, sometimes in a very verbally abusive manner too. It made me so sad. My female cousins and sisters are going through the same thing: no man and if they have a man...it's loveless and lifeless.

Started reading about fatherless daughters and this goes really deep. This is why we call God 'Father'...so many ladies are struggling in this area. So many fatherless daughters, absent fathers.
I understand and that’s the spirit of rejection it’s not always our fault why these spirits follow us or influence us we need to learn “my people perish from a lack of knowledge” Hosea 4:6 but don’t give up don’t just lay down and let the enemy win. He’s stealing your joy your happiness your life out from under you. I bind my faith with yours and every praying Christian in the world to Stop those thoughts of it might never happen I arrest those defeated thoughts in Jesus name. Please read the post I added more and look at these men’s videos with a notepad and pen and go to work. If you want the beautiful life God had intended for you you have to get up and FIGHT! For it! FIGHT! For your joyous life FIGHT for what is rightfully yours and that the enemy has so cruelly and ruthlessly kept from you.
This is a fallen world which means that what is supposed to be ours sometimes most times will not just fall out of the sky. In Jesus name I rebuke all those spirits in and around you that are making you give up and surrender your crown. We Put in the whole armor of God and bind those spirits and call in the Lords s mighty angles to put on their full armor of God and to chain those evil spirits to the foot of he cross so they never return be gone be gone be gone forever! Amen Amen and Amen! We ask God to send down your blessings send the HS to give you ears to hear and eyes to see and a heart to receive and knowledge from the Holy Spirit to guide you in this battle and on your journey. Amen!

Remember how the demon prince of Persia blocked Daniels answers when he prayed and fasted? well it’s the same story that keeps on repeating with all of us. These demons only leave from prayer and fasting. So honey get your videos books and start becoming a prayer warrior. Also check out my book list link in my siggy. I will update this week. God Bless you and keep,you and may His face shine upon you, Amen!
 
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Maracujá

November 2020 --> 14 years natural!!!
I understand and that’s the spirit of rejection it’s not always our fault why these spirits follow us or influence us we need to learn “my people perish from a lack of knowledge” Hosea 4:6 but don’t give up don’t just lay down and let the enemy win. He’s stealing your joy your happiness your life out from under you. I bind my faith with yours and every praying Christian in the world to Stop those thoughts of it might never happen I arrest those defeated thoughts in Jesus name. Please read the post I added more and look at these men’s videos with a notepad and pen and go to work. If you want the beautiful life God had intended for you you have to get up and FIGHT! For it! FIGHT! For your joyous life FIGHT for what is rightfully yours and that the enemy has so cruelly and ruthlessly kept from you.
This is a fallen world which means that what is supposed to be ours sometimes most times will not just fall out of the sky.
In Jesus name I rebuke all those spirits in and around you that are making you give up and surrender your crown. We Put in the whole armor of God and bind those spirits and call in the Lords s mighty angles to put on their full armor of God and to chain those evil spirits to the foot of he cross so they never return be gone be gone be gone forever! Amen Amen and Amen! We ask God to send down your blessings send the HS to give you ears to hear and eyes to see and a heart to receive and knowledge from the Holy Spirit to guide you in this battle and on your journey. Amen!

Remember how the demon prince of Persia blocked Daniels answers when he prayed and fasted? well it’s the same story that keeps on repeating with all of us. These demons only leave from prayer and fasting. So honey get your videos books and start becoming a prayer warrior. Also check out my book list link in my siggy. I will update this week. God Bless you and keep,you and may His face shine upon you, Amen!
watch (at the 32:00 mark)
 

Sarabellam

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Just need to vent: I’m so sick of unavailable men being interested and as soon as they’re free they’re not interested anymore or they don’t see me at all like I’m not on their radar for single datable or marriageable women. Like let’s say “Sharon” is divorced or Suzy has an OOW kid but their getting approached and getting dates. And literally I went to a prof networking event and a nice looking young man literally walked over me to go run after some other woman.
Look this isn’t jealousy I’ve checked that at the door it’s just brutally honest observations I’ve been doing because I’ve been working on myself in all areas and checking myself too and it’s not easy.
These video series have helped me understand it’s not physical or this world there’s more to this battle. I mean I’m doing everything I’m supposed to be doing and more then what’s really blocking me from producing good fruit heck any fruit in this are of my life, that’s the question that the HS is giving me answers to.
I’m not sure if I’m allowed to be apart of this discussion. I just talked to my single Christian friend about some topics in dating and I wanted to see if you all were talking about similar topics. But when I read your post I felt urged to say something.

1. Men are often more likely to shoot a long shot when there are no chips on the table. They got a women so if you don’t reciprocate there is no loss. When they aren’t in a relationship their pride is more involved and they look for options with higher odds.

2. Your future husband should be like “woah!” when he gets a good look at you. Anything less and it’s a sign for both of you that the guy should keep on walking anyway.

3. It sounds like you’ve worked on releasing yourself from many of the mental traps this world has set for us. If you focusing on being “a good woman” with a strong relationship with Him and keep being social then a good man who is for you will see you.
 
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Belle Du Jour

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I took a break from this thread because I was feeling discouraged and wondering why myself and other beautiful Christian sisters who have it together have so much difficulty in this area. I embarked on a journey of doing a lot of work on myself and that has been going well and it still continues. But reading your posts @Lucia and @Maracujá have reminded me that there's another issue at play: a spiritual one. Just a few weeks ago I worked on the feeling of rejection that has plagued me for a while but I didn't think about it being a "spirit" until I came here this morning. I had stopped praying about this area because I felt it was driving a wedge between me and God (ie I'm asking but He's not answering). I think now I understand it's a combination of both action in the natural (becoming my best self) and action in the spiritual (prayer/fasting/etc). Because of feeling discouraged, I stopped much of the spiritual part of this journey. Now I see I need to combine both. Don't give up ladies. I'm in a much better place this year. I am content where I am but I am excited for what is to come.
 

Lucia

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I’m not sure if I’m allowed to be apart of this discussion. I just talked to my single Christian friend about some topics in dating and I wanted to see if you all were talking about similar topics. But when I read your post I felt urged to say something.

1. Men are often more likely to shoot a long shot when there are no chips on the table. They got a women so if you don’t reciprocate there is no loss. When they aren’t in a relationship their pride is more involved and they look for options with higher odds.

2. Your future husband should be like “woah!” when he gets a good look at you. Anything less and it’s a sign for both of you that the guy should keep on walking anyway.

3. It sounds like you’ve worked on releasing yourself from many of the mental traps this world has set for us. If you focusing on being “a good woman” with a strong relationship with Him and keep being social then a good man who is for you will see you.
Of course you can post here thanks for the POV sometimes when you’re gong through things you tend to think it’s only me, but it’s not. Point number 2 is a golden nugget now in 20/20 hindsight I can see that I’ve dodged a couple of bullets on the past.
 

Lucia

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Books from video and books I suggest.
Be free from Marine spouses - Zita Grant
short easy quick read gives explanations in basic stuff

Deliverance from covenants Rev James Solomon


Overthrowing Evil Altars -Uzu Ndekwu


Prayers that rout Demons- John Ekhart

Deliverance Prayers
Im done with 4 of these books currently reading the Deliverance from evil covenants book these books are a goldmine a wealth of spiritual knowledge and effective prayers. Ladies don’t sleep in these resources.
 

Maracujá

November 2020 --> 14 years natural!!!
^^^^
Some of the points that stood out to me:

* We are not capable of choosing our own mates, God is much better at that. Our carnal desires and deep seated pathologies can only disappoint us.

* Established routines are important in a relationship

* Living costs money :lol: lots of it...

* The man should meet the woman at her level (unsure how I feel about this one)...
 
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